Multiple missed opportunities and I’m beating myself up.

izzyinjurious · 2018-06-28T23:50:14+00:00

CBD and “Hello” CBD will help with the social anxiety and relax you. Walk up to them and say “hello, I’m ___” with confidence. Then do it 100 more times until you get good at it. Good luck.

uberdank · 2018-06-29T03:17:35+00:00

Have you done the 100 approach challenge yet? By approach 50, your approach/social anxiety will have drastically reduced and you'll be ready to meet IOI's on the fly.

Edit: I have also savagely beat myself up over missed opportunities. I have literally bumble fucked guaranteed lay opportunities where top is off and panties are next by saying something dumb or acting stupid. Personally, the only way I can get over it is by approaching, getting fresh numbers, and going on new dates. If I dont approach or proactively engage new girls, I'll continue to beat myself up and wallow in a downward spiral of disgust and regret.

EnvironmentalTwister · 2018-06-28T23:51:57+00:00

Adding to this: how do you approach after eye contact with them before? I've had decent success after asking during breaks of exercise, but just go indirect? I've done that all the time.

thinking10 · 2018-06-29T16:21:27+00:00

Some small things I use that work for me is just triggering communication with something simple. If girls really want to talk to you and they wait for the first move from you, you gotta say something man. Anything. Like:

"Hey, are you using this? Point at dumbbell"

Make strong eye contact and when she responds, respond accordingly and walk away if she doesn't seem interested in chatting, this way you don't look like a creep at the gym. From there, when I get a response and she seems willing to chat, natural instinct tells me to keep talking. And if you're not sure when to stop talking and walk away, test run it on any chick at the gym and wait until you feel awkward. You'll know then and there when to close conversation and walk away.

If you have further questions, let me know. Hope this helps haha.

Latcat · 2018-06-29T22:10:00+00:00

Well I saw her again and approached her made small talk...than asked for the number...and she has a boyfriend, and he works out at the same gym....I’m glad I did it...but now I feel embarrassed, how do you get past that? It was just super confusing because I always caught her looking at me...is there a difference between being a girl looking because he looks cool/interesting vs I like him..or is that thinking too much into it?

Audentes · 2018-06-29T12:52:24+00:00

'You're killing this workout! Keep hanging in there.' 'Thanks! It's only my second one' 'No way, look like you've done this before. My name is... Btw' 'haha, I'm... Nice to meet you' 'Before we head back, let's get a drink sometime. Hit me with your number and I'll text you later?' 'OK, it's...'

That's about it. Compliment or tease, drop your name, if she says hers then use your mutual time constraint to get the number and disengage.

Roughly what I've done before. Only ever engage if you're both taking a breather at a water fountain or something. Never interrupt a workout.

Title	Multiple missed opportunities and I’m beating myself up.
Author	Latcat
Upvotes	20
Comments	11
Date	June 28, 2018 10:33 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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