How to Build Confidence: Step by Step

bolxrex · 2018-08-30T01:37:02+00:00

This is a good podcast. Thanks for sharing.

For those too lazy to listen yourselves: TL;DL my take. None of this stuff is new, but the dude says it well.

theorem 1: Shyness is just a defense mechanism to tell others you lack confidence in yourself. The state of being shy is not an emotion. Stop being shy by cognitively deciding to knock that shit out.

theorem 2: Women are just like men and are attracted to good looking people first and foremost. Women are better than men at settling for someone less attractive, but being attractive is important and will in and of itself boost confidence.

theorem 3: Women will make it easy to attract them if they are into you, learning to hit on women is really the art of learning to tell if a woman is into you vs just faking it for attention.

theorem 4: Being smooth with women means not making excuses for yourself and proving that you have done this before. Women can tell the difference between real confidence and ego.

step 1: Hit the gym. Get fit, this will be the foundation for having confidence in yourself.

step 2: Strike up 5 minute conversation with random women anywhere. Listen and internalize the conversation well enough to recap what was said to a 3rd party. Rinse, repeat.

step 3: Get your finances in order. Get your shit together.

step 4: Get your wardrobe together. Don't focus on the trends, wear what will make you look good.

HolySpaceInvader · 2018-08-29T21:43:50+00:00

Wear your collar up. Always.

pim312 · 2018-08-29T22:13:02+00:00

Can someone do a TL;DL?

MKUltraBallz · 2018-08-30T02:11:00+00:00

Pretty good analysis overall. The delivery is kinda slow, but it's worth a listen. Confidence really does matter when it comes to pulling, it's a fundamental skill a lot of people (including myself) lack.

ColdCaulkCraig · 2018-08-30T03:21:47+00:00

I want to share my idea of confidence as I just figured it out.

Confidence is "This is who I am and if you don't like it, you can fuck off".

No confidence is "I'll be whatever you want me to be or I won't be anything at all".

Confidence gets some girls (not all, of course); no confidence gets none.

blunt_eastwood · 2018-08-30T00:05:55+00:00

How about read Models and follow the action plan?

Title	How to Build Confidence: Step by Step
Author	WegaThrowaway
Upvotes	30
Comments	7
Date	August 29, 2018 9:24 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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