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Follow-up post here:

https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9jcebw/we_might_die_how_to_plan_a_date_thatll_blow_her/

TLDR: Being trustworthy is the most underrated trait in pickup

Approaching a girl who is with family might be one of the hardest things to do and pull off successfully. You have to be absolutely confident in your intentions AND you need to demonstrate enough 'safe' traits that the family does not reject you or shoo you away. Here is a brief account of picking up a 19F Louisianan girl from a beach party in Thailand.

Me, 25M, 7/10, thin, on Ritalin taking a walk across the beach at Koh Phangan (full moon party), sees a cute 19F standing near the bar talking with a 30F Thai woman.

Approach: 30s delay in checking her out, walked straight to her, handshake, told her I thought she was cute.

Convo:19F "Oh great! Thanks!"Me: "Is this your friend?"19F: "No, that's my stepmother"

I engage the stepmum in a bit of smalltalk. She's Thai, getting divorced, and they're on a last holiday together. I'm subcommunicating that I'm an open person, interested in her situation, and not trying to play games. After chatting with her for a minute with the 19F listening in I directed things back to 19F. She's an art teacher, loving Thailand, I'm a bit of an artist myself. Discuss a portrait I did of my dog with watercolour, show her a pic on my phone (hobbies are great*).* After five minutes of chit-chat, my instincts tell me to keep moving because ....

"My friends want to keep going - how about I grab your number and I'll message you later to see what you're up to?"

Badabing badaboom. Go home later that night with a 22F hardbody Californian Asian to my bungalow. We just make out because I'm not really feeling the love - still thinking about that art teacher.

The next night, pick her up from her resort (where I meet her kid sister), go on an amazing motorcycle adventure around the island and have some of the best sex of my life. Awesome breakfast at local restaurant included. I'll do a post on that night after this one, but I just want to focus on the dynamics at play on the beach.

Pros:- direct approach ("I think you're cute") is great in the beach party environment where there's a lot of uncertainty and for a girl who isn't getting approached by a lot of guys because she's with her mum*.*- respectful of her family indicates good underlying values- shared hobbies and indication that I like animals (these are the basics)- having friends, who are making me move on. I must be doing interesting things.- leaving early so that her interest increases*,* shows I have abundanceAll of these things indicate safety and trust which made her family cool with me taking her out for a night.

Cons:- didn't talk to her for long on the night, could be forgettable- didn't make sure she was going home with me that night, she could have been picked up by someone else (although she later told me that she stayed behind to look for me and ended up just watching the sun rise)

I'm doing a series of posts on girls I've slept with in the past few years to look at how the principles I learned from Mark Manson's Models applied in my hookups.