Couple of girls are just talking to me about their problems.

Lumberjack1234 · 2015-01-23T11:50:12+00:00

You are a time-slut. Let me translate that to a woman's question.

Couple of guys are just having sex with me

I consider them boyfriends, so not having sex with them anymore is not an option. A pattern is emerging where we meet, small talk for a few minutes and soon after we are at his place having sex. I woudn't mind to blow them and be pumped and dumped for a bit, but it feels like sex is the only thing we are doing.

I'm making fun about them for not being a real exclusive relationship, but it's not enough

How can I break this pattern? and how can I avoid it in the first place?

It's easy bro, don't be a slut.

[deleted] · 2015-01-22T13:18:03+00:00

I consider them friends

If you called them at 10 pm with a flat tire would they stop whatever they were doing and come help you out? If they were on a date? Out with friends?

OneTouchHowMuch · 2015-01-22T09:59:49+00:00

You are an orbiter. If you didn't hope you might sleep with them, you wouldn't put up with it. If they wanted to sleep with you they wouldn't complain to you as it's not attractive.

If you still want them around, here's what you do:

Lead the conversation. Set the tone by asking questions and making comments about interesting things and they will follow. If you wait for girls to do it, they will talk about what they want which is complaints 'n' problems.

If they still only want to complain, find better friends who have more interesting things to talk about.

Titan5000 · 2015-01-22T17:02:20+00:00

Tell them you aren't a therapist and to talk to their girlfriends when they need to unload some drama. You only want to have fun. If they don't like it, who cares, you aren't having sex with them anyway. What do most women have to offer that isn't drama or a vagina?

TheRealMewt · 2015-01-22T09:42:08+00:00

If you and these girls are actually friends, you all should be doing something more with each other besides talking about problems. Go do something fun as a group. People are less inclined to bitch about their lives when they're too preoccupied with enjoying themselves.

uppermostless · 2015-01-22T18:16:13+00:00

Just like lumberjack1234 says, you are their time hoe. A girl, if attracted to you, will not talk of her problems to you. She wants to be seen as a great catch.

It boils down to emotional availability vs physical availability. If you are here for her emotionally, she is fucking you without even realising and you're not even fucking her. Make yourself emotionally available once you got what you want, otherwise they'll just leech off of you without you getting anything.

boscoist · 2015-01-22T19:21:32+00:00

I put up with my old housemate doing this over break. I put myself in the stupid position of not being able to leave either. I let all the TRP stuff fly and told her to her face that her plan (wait longer before sex) wouldn't work and that they guy was probably going to P&D. She didn't listen, so I just kept drinking and chuckled all night. Break the pattern by not being a doormat. Only do things with them that you enjoy, skip out on the dinners and only do drinks if its somewhere where you have a chance to meet new people.

Title	Couple of girls are just talking to me about their problems.
Author	trptrpthrows
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	January 22, 2015 9:18 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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