I can't talk to strangers

hunterpua · 2018-11-01T21:00:55+00:00

Talk to strangers.

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Don't know what to say?

Immediately after the open

Making guesses about them, the guesses can be as wild or educated as you want. If you go wild theres a lower likelihood of you getting it right but also higher likelihood of it to add fun or intrigue to the interaction, if you go educated theres a higher likelihood you get it right and amaze her but lower likelihood of it being really funny unless you know how to exaggerate and amplify. The point is, getting it right or wrong doesn't matter, whichever way it goes will lead to a conversation.

I would say that if your sense of humor is off then maybe don't go too wild because if you make a guess that's way off and deliver it dead serious then a negative reaction is likely. If you got a great sense of humor though then just guess anything you can pull out of your ass, they'll love it whichever way it goes.

As soon as your guesses get even a little bit of engagement from her

Understand that everything she says, does, wears, sounds like, looks like, is a clue to give you topics of conversation and you should be able to pull multiple topics from a single clue.

I'll break down two of these (something she says and something she does) to give you an idea of just how many topics you can pull out of one clue.

If she says she works in marketing...

Possible topics:

Why she likes it
What you know about marketing
How did she get into it?
What her favorite part about it is
Why she chose a job of that nature
What kind of person you need to be to do that job
She probably enjoys making people look good
[Anything else you can think of]

If she opens her legs in a wide stance...

Possible topics:

Martial Arts
Fitness
Dominance
Relaxation
Lesbians
Giving birth
Flexibility
[Anything else you can think of]

Some of these seem a little too far off but it actually doesn't matter. If she says or does something that reminds you of another thing you can just start talking about that. Notice how a topic arises from out of nowhere at times when you're talking with you friends, that's how it happens, they do something or something in the environment happens that reminds you of something then you just start talking about it. You don't need to to tell them what reminded you of it, just start talking right away.

When she says something, respond with a statement before you ask her a question

Immediately asking a question after she says something is abnormal behavior by the way. You might think that is how a conversation goes but that is false. I can have you prove that to yourself right now. Go into your text messages and look at a thread where you're not discussing work or some sort of meeting, find a thread where you're shooting the shit with a good friend. Notice how most of it will be you guys making statements and responding with statements to each other's statements and only asking questions not to progress the conversation but only when you're curious, want to know something, or want to clarify something.

Constantly just asking questions or what people like to call going into "interview mode" is boring because its not interactive. You're basically just asking her to keep saying shit. A conversation is when she tells you about herself or what she thinks then you respond in kind. If you think of it like sports, tennis would be so damn boring if one player just had a hundred balls and simply kept serving while the other player just catches the balls and rolls them back over to the server's side.

In a conversation you gotta hit the ball back & forth.

We sometimes skip over 10 minutes of conversation without noticing

Lets say a girl says she's from Paris. A huge mistake to make is to say, "Oh. What brings you here?" Because you could have talked about Paris for a good 10-15 minutes at least before moving on to why she's here.

Steer the conversation towards commonalities

Lets say you're a huge fan of baseball and she happens to be a huge fan too. You guy's would end up talking about baseball all day.

If you forget every other tip here then just remember to focus on finding commonalities.

You're welcome.

dailymanup · 2018-11-01T22:46:18+00:00

You say talking to strangers is a waste of time. However, try to look at it this way, you're doing it only for practice. Who cares that you'll never see them again. It doesn't matter. Practice so that when you meet someone you're actually interested in, you have some experience. Your current approach is kind of like a professional basketball player saying it's a waste of time to play basketball, if it's not an actual tournament game. If you'd like some ideas about how to create an interesting conversation with strangers, check out this article on making assumptions.

Joan_Zeroz · 2018-11-02T04:29:39+00:00

You need to start sarging, approach girls, cold approach, stop thinking that life will give you this chances, you must create those chances, go to a mall and approach some girls, or hit the club, there are so many opportunities but if you do not take action well then you will get nothing.

Zeroz

Title	I can't talk to strangers
Author	Otakufy
Upvotes	2
Comments	15
Date	November 1, 2018 7:26 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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