How to handle irritating knobhead who look a fight

40plus1 · 2018-11-05T02:05:30+00:00

I am trying to understand how he did taekwando moves to you in the club. Like he kicked you? That’s ridiculous, why would anyone do that. And if he’s drunk, it would be pretty impressive to see someone perform some elaborate kick.

hunterpua · 2018-11-04T21:00:45+00:00

Just learn a grappling martial art man. The best options are Judo, Wrestling, and Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. They're like the best martial arts for game because you can completely shut down someone who is looking for a fight and not even look like you're doing anything but hugging him or trying to calm him down. While you do that he'll usually go crazy because he can feel his sense of control being taken away and get more aggressive and maybe even punch or elbow you (don't worry, you'll be way to close for those shots to hurt) which means you will look completely innocent while he will look like the biggest asshole, making everyone in the club hate him, the bouncers throw him out, and everyone in the club love you because they'll admire "your character and how you didn't even fight back after all that" because they'll have no idea what you were actually doing.

Obviously you aren't going to Judo throw a person or do a single leg takedown on him because then both of you will just look like assholes fighting in the club. Its hard to explain to someone who doesn't do any grappling but trust me, there are so many subtle techniques that you can learn. You can even trip a guy on purpose with everyone watching and everyone will still think it was an accident or that he did it to himself.

But that is for after the guy gets crazy with you. You'll need to diffuse the situation verbally first and only engage if he tries to go at you.

Guess what, you're right. The best response is to walk away. He says he's a practicing black belt and tries to do moves on you? You say, "That's cool" or "I'm good man" then walk away and ignore him, go talk to chicks.

If he raises his voice at you ignore it at first. If he approaches you and basically forces your attention to him or shouts loud enough to create a scene, don't get up, don't drop everything you were doing, don't look him in the eye like you're doing a stare down in the UFC, just proceed as you were but acknowledge him and say in a calm tonality but loud volume, "Hey man, I'm not looking for any trouble." with your hands up. You do this so that everyone around you will already see and hear that you're just trying to go on with your night and he's the only one being a knobhead about it.

He might try to play it off like he's just being friendly even though you know he's being an ass, all you need to do is stick to your frame and keep saying you're not looking for trouble, maybe even compliment him as sort of a way to give his ego a consolation prize but continue to reiterate that you aren't interested. You can say something like, "I'm sure you have amazing moves but I'm just not interested."

If you really draw attention to yourself after saying you don't want any trouble or you're not interested usually people will step in or the bouncers will at least look and the guy will be embarrassed by the way everyone will be looking at him then or even the girl you're talking to will tell the guy to back off which would be extra embarrassing for him and he will just walk away. But some dudes are just really fucked up in the head and will really try to start a fight even after all that, that's where the grappling training comes in. If you want to reinforce you're innocence even further you can say loudly while you're grabbing him, "Calm down man, calm down" or "relax, relax" and if you decide to trip him you can even say, "Oh I'm so sorry man" to reinforce the perception that it was an accident.

Heyimgonnago · 2018-11-04T21:28:55+00:00

This has nothing to do with seducing women..

masteryimain34 · 2018-11-04T20:19:43+00:00

just stand your ground - but yeah when you first start going out especially alone walking away is the best choice but don’t look like a pushover

judahman8 · 2018-11-05T05:23:55+00:00

Get away from him. Don’t waste your time being around people like that. The best thing to do is just walk away. Sometimes you can’t walk away or you just don’t want to and in those times you have to be nice to him while undermining him and dlving him at the same time.

That’s really cool bro but I didn’t come out tonight to grapple with a guy. What dojo do you go to, maybe I’ll check it out.

Oh yeah, that’s pretty cool, anyways (turn to a girl and lock him out of the convo. He’ll start forcing himself into the convo and that will dlv him even more.

I can’t tell you exactly what to do because every situation is different but you should look at people like that like you view little kids. No need to challenge a kid and you aren’t just going to go along with whatever a little kid wants to do. You do the fake I’m interested in what the kid is talking about and then you ignore him and talk to an adult about stuff you actually want to talk about.

The more they are ignored the more attention they will try to get from you and that puts you in the place of power. Don’t be rude, be an adult who is dealing with a child. Sometimes you might have to tell a kid to calm down. Hey man calm, we aren’t at your dojo. No ones thinking about fighting, were just trying to have some fun.

I never show that I’m bothered or intimidated and I’m always in control. It’s really hard to pick a fight with someone like me because I’ll just refuse and tell you to grow up. Then you’ll look stupid. Then I’ll say something like I thought they teach you to avoid fighting people for no reason. I might even make some shit up and say that my sensei told me that a real man only has to fight once in his life.

I’ll even take the girls away and say this guys not being very nice to me so let’s go hangout somewhere else. You can’t be afraid to straight up dlv the guy.

Joan_Zeroz · 2018-11-05T06:22:24+00:00

Just leave the place, you learned something, nobody will take care of you.

Those guys advicing to "fight" they have no idea how the real world works, anyone can get a weapon, a knife, street fights are not like MMA, the golden rule is to always avoid a fight, no matter what (I know muay thai).

You did good with the bouncers, but once you noticed they did nothing you should have left the place.

Zeroz

Joan_Zeroz · 2018-11-05T06:26:00+00:00

Just leave the place, you learned something, nobody will take care of you.

Those guys advicing to "fight" they have no idea how the real world works, anyone can get a weapon, a knife, street fights are not like MMA, the golden rule is to always avoid a fight, no matter what (I know muay thai).

You did good with the bouncers, but once you noticed they did nothing you should have left the place.

Zeroz

Title	How to handle irritating knobhead who look a fight
Author	40plus1
Upvotes	5
Comments	14
Date	November 4, 2018 6:36 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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