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DAE feel weird and/or embarrassed when flirting in public?

dylanbob5 · 2018-11-12T19:26:35+00:00

Even if it's fairly subtle I get the feeling that people around us know damn good and well what I'm doing....

dylanbob5

November 12, 2018

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Title	DAE feel weird and/or embarrassed when flirting in public?
Author	dylanbob5
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	November 12, 2018 7:26 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/9wh65w/dae_feel_weird_andor_embarrassed_when_flirting_in/
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[–]GGuy999 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

[–]dylanbob5 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

[–]hunterpua 0 points1 point2 points 7 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link

Actually the reason someone would act judgemental is because you make them feel inadequate because they're too scared to do that themselves so they use the excuse of "Ugh, that's so inappropriate" to be disgusted by you so that they don't have to admit to themselves that they're actually jealous.

That said, those people are actually not that common. I once saw a group of guys going up an escalator and on the down escalator next to them was a hot chick, they blatantly checked her out and cat called her. I was on the bottom walking towards the escalator to get to the next floor so when she reached the bottom I went and picked her up first. Turns out the guys stopped to watch the whole thing so when she left and I made my way up the escalator they actually gave me props and celebrated the fact that I had the balls to do something they didn't. This was in an airport so not a typical place to flirt at all.

There was also a time when I turned a corner and saw a girl that looked hot from behind. A few steps ahead of us was a shop and a guy walked out of that shop looking like he went out to get some air, he was facing in her direction. She never turned back so all I had to go on was what she looked like from behind, I never saw her face so before approaching her I approached the guy and asked him if she was hot, he said yeah so I caught up to the girl and picked her up. After that went back to the guy and said thanks because she really was hot and he just chuckled and said I was welcome. This was on the street.

Another time I was in a shopping mall and a group of girls walked by. Just noticed they looked kinda cute from the corner of my eye the second they walked past me so I just started walking backwards to catch up with them, no I didn't turn, I just walked backwards while they walked normally. I was smiling while checking them out, it was clear from my expression what I wanted and they just smiled back and giggled. Unfortunately, none of them were actually that pretty so I didn't talk to any of them, we just shared a few smiles.

You've heard of social proof right? If you really look into it, not thru game sources but through psychology sources you will find out that people are more likely to follow the herd when they're unsure what to do. When you flirt with a girl in an everyday kind of situation it breaks normal people's patterns because they're not used to seeing that so they will be unsure how to react to that so they just take a cue from how everyone else is reacting.

There is a way to stop them from doing that. Confused crowds are also more likely to follow the person who is the most sure of themselves which is why when there is an emergency in a crowded place and an off duty cop or a marine who is between deployments just happens to be there and speaks up and tells everyone what they need to do, even without knowing his qualifications and seeing that he's just wearing normal clothes, the people will still do as he says because he is the person that is showing the most certainty in that situation.

If you notice in all 3 of my examples I never showed any hesitation or guilt for what I was doing. My attitude was basically, "Bitch, this is what's supposed to be done!" which is why those dudes, that shop attendant, or those girls just followed my lead and acted like that was exactly what was supposed to be happening in that moment.

This comment is basically a long winded way of saying,"Be fucking confident!" but if I just said that, it would still be hard for you to do because you wouldn't understand the point...but now, you get it.

So just be confident. Yes, there will be a few legit haters here and there but they are few and far between, most haters are just bandwagon haters who are just copying the person who is acting most sure of themselves so do yourself a favor and be more sure than the haters.