GF cheated on me, then broke up with me, I still want her back

TwistyMetal · 2018-12-21T08:24:13+00:00

Shop local brother.

TwistyMetal · 2018-12-21T08:38:16+00:00

You're only 16 buddy. Dont think or feel pressured to find the love of your life right now. Just try to find who you are and everything else will come together in time.

QE-Infinity · 2018-12-21T08:54:12+00:00

Get out now. You’re over invested.

NikeOil · 2018-12-21T09:16:13+00:00

Stop being shallow and all about looks. That rating system is bs. A 8/10 overseas fucking other dudes vs a 6/10 who is loyal to u and makes u happy. That’s a no brainer brah. Let me ask u? What out of 10 are u? Improve yourself for yourself and you will get what you want. But this ship has sailed homey.

One_Insanity · 2018-12-21T11:04:46+00:00

I don't even care what you wrote in the post.

The title gives me all I need to know.

Get out. Jump off that ship because that bitch is sinking. And you ain't gonna gain anything from going down with it.

Not all is lost. With her it is. But you're here, motherfucker. You got a ton of work to do. Do not be a pathetic little cuck that forgives people for every slight they commit against you. Be stronger. You wanna be a man? Well you're in the right place. Fuck her, she's not worth the trouble. Trust me. She really really isn't. This is just your desperation speaking.

And if you get her back, you will fucking regret it because she WILL cheat on you again. Once a cheat, always a cheat.

You have to be better than this. Start working on yourself. Get in shape. Start reading. Try your best to figure out where you want to go in life. 16 is prime real estate to start this road. Many of us aren't so fortunate to find this so early in their life.

SaveTheYouf · 2018-12-21T12:28:25+00:00

Hey, idk you and you don't know me but I see a lot of my younger self within you. I was in a similar situation, except I was 18 and the girl was 23. After reading this I actually made this Reddit account for the express purpose of helping you and anyone else who was like me out with this kind of stuff, because no one would do it for me at your age, I had to go search for it. Since you've reached out, I'll give you what you asked for, some in depth advice(At least I think you want some in depth advice.)

Here's a disclaimer, what I say is not gospel, absolute, or unchallenged, remember advice is just that, advice, and I will not suggest you do ANYTHING that's illegal or that will cause you ham.

I know what I'm about to say is going to be disappointing to hear, I know you might really want to stop reading after I say this, but I beg you continue, cause I hopped out of bed and clawed my way to this fucking monitor to type this shit out for you, because I've been there and I REFUSE to let another youf fall victim to this shit lol

I need you to really, truly, honestly, consider leaving this girl alone, for a LONG time. Dw you can come back in 4 years when she's legal age, but I need you to understand you're messing around with some serious shit. I know it's scary to think about, and it should be, because statutory rape charge IS some serious shit. You can, and most likely WILL be tried as an adult AND sentenced to some horrible time or fines, all over a girl who basically ripped your heart out like KANO from MK, chewed it up, and spit it out. I really need you to get this into your head because this is the 1st step I'm giving you with honest advice. If going for some pussy can destroy your entire life, don't do it, it's NEVER worth it. Trust me. Even if you don't take away anything else from this, at least take away this advice here.

Right from the start you admit this is the 1st girl you ever actually had sex with. You might not realize it, or you might, shit idk, but for most people the 1st person they have sexual relations with they typically get attached to, but this isn't always the case. For you though, I assume it is. AND THATS OKAY. Its OKAY for you to feel that way, because it's natural to. BUT, it's time for someone to lend you a helping hand in getting through this. I'm about to break all this shit down for you.

1. The ugly truth is that, regardless of what she decides to do with you, this girl isn't' worth it dude. The amount of effort and energy you're investing into this is not, I can guarantee with the upmost confidence, nearly the amount of effort that's she's investing, and that's already a huge strike. On top of this, she's underage, and that's some really heavy shit you need to consider and seriously take care of. If you're ever investing leagues more than the girl is, you either need to tone it down, or stop completely, because remember, YOU DESERVE THE BEST AND ONLY THE BEST.

A. Your height complex: I would assume that a lot of your height complex comes from girls, since they seem to be the focus of your life right now. Well, there's hope yet, because I'm here to tell you some good news. For 90-99% of woman, THAT SHIT DOES NOT MATTER. Don't get me wrong, there are girls out there who will ignore you if you don't have one of or more of those things, but the majority will not. Anyone who tells you different doesn't know shit about picking up woman lol. You want to know what's the largest deciding factor in picking up woman? I shit you not, you could look like the grim reaper, but as long as you keep your hygiene in tact (Showers, deodorant, brushing your teeth, fixing your cloths up, doing your hair, etc.) the biggest deciding factor in picking up woman is C-O-N-F-I-D-E-N-C-E. That's right, not height, not looks, not money, not crazy world play, not six pack abs, not intelligence(mostly, like not being a genius is what I mean, average, or even below average intelligence is just fine), not being athletic, or any of that shit. The number 1 thing that will get you laid is Confidence. I can't stress this enough. When people used to tell me confidence is key, I used to think they were just telling me some generic shit, but low and fucking behold, IT ACTUALLY WORKS. You want to know the best thing about confidence? YOU CAN FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT BABY. You can literally walk up to girls and attract them without saying a fucking word just by telling them to come here with your fingers if you fake this shit hard enough. The best thing about the human brain, is that eventually your brain will adapt to you acting confident, then you'll ACTUALLY BECOME confident without having to consciously turn it on. Isn't that amazing? HOLY SHIT this rocked my fucking world when I learned it.

3. News Flashes: I need to give you some general advice about girls that typically stay true for all ages, from baby till old lady.

a. Girls will, without fail, usually make time for the people they like, unless there's a genuine reason not to. I'm talking about a death in the family, their phone gets cut off, they lose their voice, they're sick, or they're at work, otherwise there's really no excuse, keep in mind that there can and will be exceptions. In your case, from the start this girl doesn't seem to be that invested in you. I'm here to tell you that these two reasons you've listed for the 1st break up are absolute bullshit. There is no way in fuck all that her parent's like their daughter doing anything with any boy at her age, shit I wouldn't either lol. So for her to tell you some shit like that, then go chill with other guys, is absolute bs. I know it might hurt to hear, but I rather you hurt now, then get traumatic energy from this shit that stays with you the rest of your life.

The distance is too much
Her parents don’t like me

B. The more you push, the more they pull away. Another truth that tends to follow is that girls love a chase. No matter how much you feel for her, think about her, or want to be with her, if you make it too easy you're already setting yourself up for failure. Now I'm not talking about the "wait for 30 minutes to text back" bs (although it does work sometimes lol) I'm talking more about qualification. Here's what i mean by that. If you always tell her you love her, do everything for her, forgive all of her wrongdoings, give dishonest or non genuine compliments, give her gifts all the time, pay for everything, and even go out of your way to do things all the time for her, you're fucking up. All of this is actually having a counter effect on your desired outcome. At that point you've made everything so easy that you just become another guy chasing at her heels, she doesn't even need to get up for you to be there for her, which is a pretty big turnoff for most woman. It can also come off as creepy or needy depending on how close you are to the girl. Keep in mind though that this isn't your fault, what has fucked most men up nowadays is the societal norm of what love "should be" and Hollywood. The "romance" genre is the main culprit. It's fake. Most of it is fake. It was so sad to learn this, but it's also super empowering because you realize you don't have to be James Bond or Casanova to pick up chicks.

C. Constant Contact. For the future, if a girl says stop texting her, STOP TEXTING HER ASAP. She'll usually say it for two reasons, she really can't text you at the moment, or she wants nothing to do with you at the moment. Either way, the best action to take is usually to stop texting, keep your distance, and let them contact you 1st. Keep in mind that there are exceptions but they are few and far in between. Remember, you're worth the most in the world to you. You deserve more than to beg ANYONE to be a part of your life. If a genuine apology and question didn't solve the trick, then sigh, I know it's hard, I know it's so painful it makes you want to cry, but it's time to call it a wrap. Move on brother.

D. Not Ready For A Relationship. Ahhh the classic I'm not ready for a relationship or, I need some space speech. This is usually a lie, but can still hold true for a lot of woman, it all depends really. But trust me it's usually a lie. If a girl is REALLY head over heels for someone, they sacrifice shit like no other for them. As a matter of fact, they'll be ECSTATIC to be in a relationship. If a girl wants space or says they aren't ready for a relationship, they're usually considering other options, or just aren't that in to you. Either way, you're above that shit so do yourself a favor and go look for some better looking or more attractive girls! Remember, YOU DESERVE THE BEST ALWAYS!

Feel free to directly contact me in regards to any of this, I'll do my best to answer. I refuse to lose another youf to the struggle, have a good day my friend!

Menlistenhere · 2018-12-21T10:00:17+00:00

Move on. Learn from this. Always keep other women in your back pocket as well. Contact the ones you lost out on before while you were with this one.

Snight · 2018-12-21T08:50:08+00:00

She’s 14, you’re 16 - enjoy the sex offender registry, bud.

Title	GF cheated on me, then broke up with me, I still want her back
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Date	December 21, 2018 8:21 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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