Why is female Ego so fucking brittle?

redpillshadow · 2015-02-06T23:00:59+00:00

Treating women like men will not work. Equality of the sexes is a lie.

If you want to get work done as a leader you have to take the strength and weaknesses of your workers into consideration. If you treat them like exchangeable drones (like feminism wants you to) you are a bad leader and it will backfire at some point.

2dfx · 2015-02-07T02:18:10+00:00

The title question still hasn't been answered.

I'm curious

[deleted] · 2015-02-07T00:35:08+00:00

These girls sound dumb, simple as that.

I went to a pretty good school, the girls I'd do projects were always pretty efficient. I would play dumb and get them to do a lot of my work as well.

Are you attending a low rank university?

Audunis · 2015-02-07T02:17:16+00:00

Because women want to be liked. Being liked is important to them because they used being liked as an insurance policy for them and their kids if their man died in the ancestral environment.

But they are also told to put themselves out there AND coddled like crazy in our society so it's a dangerous cocktail

AfterC · 2015-02-07T02:53:07+00:00

A human's ego and mental security (specifically to women in this case - but I muse they're likelier more socially adept and therefore more concerned about this) works a lot like the appraisal of real estate.

I could sell you my house for the sum value of the plywood, brick and nails that makes up the structure. Or, I can determine its value based upon what other people agree it's value is.

Ego is the latter - a function of value by democracy and exterior input. Insecurities, hesitation, qualifying statements - it's all ego protectionism.

Real confidence, self worth, is the difference between a house made of plywood and one of marble. My raw marble is worth more when sold.

tetsugakusei · 2015-02-07T02:59:42+00:00

If you're the one man, the women will automatically assume you are the leader. They don't want backchat from you; they want action (so at no point need you be condescending). If you fail to seize the leadership, by, for example, trying to find consensus, you will be ripped to shreds by group action and the strongest girl will take over.

CouldntFindGudName · 2015-02-07T06:42:24+00:00

Ego comes with confidence, confidence comes with success, success comes with hard work, hard work needs discipline, discipline requires strong will power which comes with strong mind and we all know how strong a woman's mind is.

When you have no substance to your life then the ego becomes fragile.

oldredder · 2015-02-07T06:36:25+00:00

I know some who aren't; I've met plenty of men with a brittle ego.

It's poor character from a sheltered life.

"Stop with all the fucking I think I feel and instead give me a decisive action plan you think we should consider to solve the problem instead of 'I think, I feel' etc. "

What's the nature of the work? If it's anything in marketing, PR or sales, feelings matter. How people feel is how people who are dumb yet not broke yet get to spend money on what you're selling that they do not need so you can stay in business.

reddeadpillars · 2015-02-06T23:23:16+00:00

What kind of work are you having to do with them exactly? Context would be good for advice.

Other than that, women need for a man to take the lead. This is especially true in group situations. Put a bunch of women together and tell them to get something done, and likely all you're going to get is a bunch of back and forth bickering.

So, if you find yourself in a group full of women, you're gonna have to learn and know the things they are good at as individuals. I've found that women can generally have great and creative ideas about things, implementing those ideas is another story.

favours_of_the_moon · 2015-02-07T01:51:46+00:00

Get HER to talk. Validate her for what she says.

R4F1 · 2015-02-07T08:50:32+00:00

Its Disney Princess complex. They've been told yes their whole life, and how pretty they are.

Rooi_Aap · 2015-02-07T09:23:30+00:00

A few years back I worked in an all male office. Making sexually insulting jokes about your "target" or the "target's" mother was par for the course. Everybody laughs, sometimes the "target" will fistbump the "attacker" if it was very creative or funny. There was this 18 year old kid who worked there. Comes from a strict, conservative and sheltered home.

Sometimes we would make jokes where he is the target and he would get offended and visibly upset (he never made a scene). He cornered the one co-worker one day (guy had a "papa-bear" vibe, even though he was the sharpest whip with the insults) and asked him about the ribbing. Papa Bear explained that it is all for fun, it is all hypothetical and we are not truly saying that your mom is a whore, but my insult would be true and funny if she was, Papa Bear has actually met kid's mom once and she is a great lady, but we are not talking about her. Your temporary false shame is a kindle to the fire of the jokes. Kid took all of the emotional investment out of the jokes, and he started laughing along and actually concocted some creative put-downs.

Point being it is about feels vs logic. If you take an attack on rational basis, you start realizing some truths in it. You might be insulted, but you build up on it. If you only respond with emotion you are in for a bad time.

Now as we all should know, in the female mind feels always trumps logic. If the kid was a girl, she would not have dropped the emotional aspect and kept being insulted. Then we would have an HR case on our hands. Later we got a few 20 something girls working in another new department, but same office, and one overheard some of the jokes and actually made a complaint. Manager apologized (she accepted) and told the boys to keep the jokes outside during smoke breaks and out of earshot of the "ladies".

BoyinCollege · 2015-02-06T23:32:56+00:00

How do I get the balance between pandering to their insecurities while also getting shit done?

The girls I'm working with are really horribly inefficient and want to keep reopening discussion on previous potential directions we could have taken our research question - I'm working with 2 of them on a Paper for a class currently - which we've moved on from because they weren't able to give a viable justification for it.

Like I've spent very long explaining to them that their ideas are bad and going in that direction will be fruitless because of yada yada yada, they ALWAYS have no response and only come back to me with:

"Yea, I understand, it makes sense BUT I STILL FEEL ..."

Oh for crying out loud, how do I get things done with women like that? They only raise questions and don't come up with solutions and expect us to take on an unexecutable area of research that has poor data and a lot of issues that will be bad academically, and somehow they want me to:

A) Go in that direction despite accepting that what I've said makes sense and we shouldn't.

B) Offer no fucking concrete action plan or alternative to show this could work and that I was wrong.

C) And finally then expect me to magically pull a rabbit out of my arse when said problems do materialise and the paper starts being fucked

AND most probably they will then call for an extension from the prof or ask whether we could redo it because of the problems I had already laid out.

UGH, it's so fucking frustrating working with these idiots!

Title	Why is female Ego so fucking brittle?
Author	BoyinCollege
Upvotes	11
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Date	February 6, 2015 10:57 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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