How the F*** to detach myself from outcome?!

hunterpua · 2019-01-25T18:33:42+00:00

All it takes is a simple mindset shift really:

You want to have sex but...

It doesn't matter if its with her or a different girl.

...

We all have standards. I'm not saying you should do away with your standards.

All I'm saying is that you don't need to worry about the individual girl as long as you're still genuinely attracted to the one you end up sleeping with.

It doesn't even take any extra effort.

Because you wouldn't approach a girl with the intent to sleep with her if she didn't already fit into your standards.

So only approach women you're attracted to and do your best to game them but don't do it for the individual right in front of you, do it for the goal beyond that one girl.

The goal to sleep with or end up in a relationship with one girl who you're genuinely attracted to.

This way your focus will be less on getting the individual girl and more on just doing your game the best you can.

You won't give a shit about the outcome with every single girl you talk to because the individual isn't important, no one is important until they show you importance.

The individuals come and go. They don't matter anymore nor should they have ever mattered in the first place because one thing a lot of guys forget is that the girls you approach are also strangers!

So every girl you meet you should genuinely see as replaceable because when we really boil it down, she's no one to you.

And in fact she hasn't earned your trust yet.

How do you know she isn't some sort of criminal or crazy psychotic bitch?

Just because she is female and hot doesn't mean she's automatically a good person.

And just because she responds positively to you also doesn't automatically make her a good person.

I'm not trying to give you a cynical view of the world here.

I'm giving you a realistic view of the world.

When we simply face the facts all the beautiful girls we approach who might be absolutely stunning creatures are simply strangers to us.

Giving them more value than that is just plain ludicrous.

In that same line of thinking, when you get your first number your top priority must be to get your next number.

Again, if we're just being realistic even if you get a cute girl's number she is still no one to you in the grand scheme of things so you really shouldn't think much of the fact that you have her number now.

And your ultimate goal is to sleep with any girl who fits into your standards and you drastically lower your chances of that happening if you put your focus all on one girl until she either fucks you or rejects you.

But if 30 seconds after you get one girl's number you're already approaching the next girl then you drastically raise your odds of succeeding at your ultimate goal.

Not to mention you get way more practice that way.

You're also able to minimize your neediness when you do that because whenever you're talking to one girl you won't worry so much if she rejects you if you know you already got 5 other numbers before you met her.

Even when going on dates you'll be more relaxed because you know that if nothing comes out of one date you have other dates already lined up.

Its not hard to have real abundance, all you need to do is allow yourself to have it.

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This part is for everyone reading this comment

A lot of you have sent me direct messages asking for my advice because you read a comment I made on this sub, just like this one, and found it to be very helpful/insightful/meaningful and I'm happy to say I've been able to help you guys so much more because of that.

Here's the problem: More and more messages are coming in and I really want to help but its getting hard to keep up.

So I've put together a Telegram group for you guys that want to improve your dating lives and want to actually understand the psychology behind our interactions with not only women but with ourselves and people in general.

If you want to be part of a group that believes in finesse over brute force, technique over strength, smart work over hard work, Seduction over pursuit then send me a direct message with your Telegram username.

If you are serious about getting better with women then I'll be happy to welcome you in.

mrfathat · 2019-01-25T18:08:40+00:00

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K3wp · 2019-01-25T18:49:32+00:00

I used to be like you. Now I'm not.

Wish I could tell you why.

To be honest, I think a lot of had to do with getting a job at a University and moving to a hip urban environment. I see so many young girls every single day they just became part of the landscape after awhile. That is abundance.

If you are not in that situation (I wasn't in my early 20's), its rough. All you can do is move.

JinTheUnleashed · 2019-01-25T17:30:09+00:00

Start focusing more on your actions and not the ego boost from how you look. I remember there were days where I would go out solo to meet women, and I was super flashy, and did okay. Then other days when I was less finicky, less flashy, just more action orientated because I felt like I didn't have that appearance crutch, I actually did alot better.

Start doing things for the action itself and not for the response of it. If that makes sense.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2019-01-25T23:15:52+00:00

Before you win someone you must be ready to loose him.

It makes probably no senses to you right now , but it will someday.

For now, to detach your self from outcome , ask your self this : will it matter in 10 years from now ? ( No ) so fck it and do it anyway

Title	How the F*** to detach myself from outcome?!
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Date	January 25, 2019 5:13 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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