Advice for making friendly conversation at my martial arts gym

obviousyak · 2019-02-25T14:56:19+00:00

I'm a competitive powerlifter working out at a commercial gym for the last 5+ years. The easiest way I have found to do this is just start talking to anyone. You see someone doing something that looks interesting? Ask them about it, "Hey I noticed you threw that guy really far, I suck at throwing people far any pointers?" Boom new friend when you see them again say whatsup hows the weekend onto your workout. Guy or girl doesnt matter, develop friendships with everyone there. Then focus on the hbs.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-02-25T16:16:02+00:00

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I don’t know many people there but I try my best to make conversation but I always feel like I’m not welcome to talk to the people at the gym. I know it’s all in my head but my confidence has kind of taken a hit with my marriage falling apart. I’d honestly like to be more talkative with both men and women at the school.

Well, honestly, the truth is likely somewhere in the middle, especially at the gym.

Some people are perfectly open to conversing/interacting at the gym. Some are having none of it and don't want interruptions.

But if your confidence is faltering at the moment, they might all seem like people who don't want to interact.

They key is to get out of your head and pay attention. Push your focus outside of your head and plug yourself into the situation. People are giving you feedback that they want or don't want interaction. People will avoid eye contact if they don't want to interact. People will show in their eye contact stance, whether they want interaction.

Also, making comments in passing, about the current moment and whatever is going on, is a great way to gauge someone's openness to talk or otherwise interact. Dropping those throwaway comments or questions will get some sort of response, sometimes showing willingness for more interaction.

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The class is Krav Maga and it’s popular with women as well. There a a few drop dead gorgeous girls in the class. I’d like to talk to some of them but I don’t want to seem like I am hitting on them.

I'd say, don't treat it like a meat market. And key to making sure you don't do that, is pay attention, actively listen, & follow-up well on what people say.

WhatsReddit123456 · 2019-02-25T18:16:46+00:00

start out with baby steps. first day, just say "good evening or afternoon". Next day, say hello, and say something short about whatever. It lets them know that you are just being friendly as opposed to full on hitting on them. Basically, keep conversations short until perhaps they start to prolong the conversation themselves.

EDIT: if their replies are long, then that means they are becoming more comfortable with you. If they reply with short answers, best to keep convo short until they start giving long replies.

Title	Advice for making friendly conversation at my martial arts gym
Author	ProfDoubleKick
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Date	February 25, 2019 2:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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