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How do I stop hating myself and have more confidence?

ProfDoubleKick · 2019-06-19T11:24:53+00:00

I've been trying to work on myself a lot lately. Exercise, meditation, cold showers, therapy, and reading my frames twice daily. Lately I have really been...

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June 19, 2019

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Title	How do I stop hating myself and have more confidence?
Author	ProfDoubleKick
Upvotes	3
Comments	9
Date	June 19, 2019 11:24 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/c2fucq/how_do_i_stop_hating_myself_and_have_more/
Archive Link	https://theredarchive.com/r/seduction/how-do-i-stop-hating-myself-and-have-more.1471742 https://theredarchive.com/post/1471742

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Okay. Part of that voice is trying to protect you - but sometimes our brain gets it wrong. There is a little voice in our heads that has been around since the dawn of humans that has kept us alive. The voice that told your great-great-great-great grandad in the Stone age to "stay away from that sabre tooth tiger" is the same voice that says now "stay away from that multilane highway when riding a unicycle". Both warning of possible danger.

However, the brain can't determine real from fake danger very well so it sometimes tries to protect us from EVERYTHING. She will never speak to me, I'll lose that business proposal, I won't get that juggling contract. You get the gist. Our brains are avoiding failure so they self sabotage. If we never try we can't be hurt right? Wrong. That voice is wrong. Failure is not always bad and sometimes we have a win.

You say you feel like a fraud. Incredibly common feeling and it is well documented. I cannot remember what it is called but it is extremely common.

Look at WHY you are feeling like this.

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