I'm getting rejected a lot and something's not working

GO_Zark · 2019-03-10T02:19:57+00:00

I'm a brown dude, I have facial hair, I dress decently, Skinny fat but look decent with clothes on, I work out whenever I can but don't eat the best and I don't have an accent.

Brown dude can be rough to start, especially if you're not well groomed. Not sure what "facial hair" means, I've seen plenty of guys with facial hair that they work hard to maintain and yet it still sucks and suits them poorly. Same thing with "dress decently". I mentored a college kid last year who "dressed decently" in a polo, cargo shorts, sandals with socks and a ball cap because that's what his friends all wore. Can you give us a little more info?

I approach a lot of girls, make them laugh, get numbers, get ghosted, sometimes I get rejected straight up,

I go out drinking, have a fun time with someone, try to get things going, no deal, get ghosted, dont even get a kiss

I go clubbing, dance, drink, have fun, sometimes grind, try to get action, no dice, not even a kiss

Also while I'm asking for more details, can you talk a little more about how you're approaching women? It almost sounds like you go in looking for their approval before trying to make something happen and that's a non-starter for a lot of people. I'd be interested in hearing more.

StarwarsITALY · 2019-03-10T02:21:54+00:00

I'm sure you know how to be man to woman.

Walk up to the Hb or group.

"You girls look fucking hot tonight, I figured I’d come say hi before 10 guys line up to buy you drinks.

Hb. Lol Blah blah blah

"But now I'm thinking I should’ve waited a bit, I’ll seem way more charming when you’re drunk."

That will get you some shit tests and lots of IOI for being man to woman on the opener. Report back on how you handle it.

tobeortobeme · 2019-03-10T13:42:05+00:00

I'm a brown too with an Indian accent...Yikes! Brown guys game should be twice as good than a average white dude... Take it from me I have been rejected a lot of times by strange girls I meet in bars because of the general stigma that brown guys do anything for pussy... Nobody can change that, only thing you could do is keep approaching.

Nothing sells like confidence. I can't stress this enough. Personally I had better luck with hot girls (even blonde sorority girls meant for ball cap wearing white guys) after they knew me as a person because sub consciously I made up my mind to break all the stereotypes when I interact with any girl, hot or not. That really helped and I hope it helps you too.

RedundantFlesh · 2019-03-10T13:18:49+00:00

Man sounds like you’ve studied well man but IMO that’s the thing. You seem like you are trying way too hard. Go out not to meet girls, don’t give a fuck about that. Go out to have fun! Show yourself in a way that you’re confident to be you. And not that you’re out fishing for girls attentions. If you simply don’t give a fuck, they will come to you, and just be a cool guy to hangout with.

asvender · 2019-03-10T05:13:52+00:00

Get serious about lifting. Get in shape and wear clothes that fit and show off a nice frame. Check your body fat levels, don't get over 20% body fat as it fucks your face. Optimally you want to be around 10 or 12 to get that slayer look.

If you're concerned about your race then do everything you can to get away from the typical immigrant look. Look westernized, get a nose ring, put a blonde streak in your hair, get blue contacts, consider a tattoo. Stand out from other guys who look like you.

Get a hobby that gets girls interested. Try djing, skateboard and shred the street, learn how to cook and host killer barbecue parties and dinners. Try something, I've done a few things, you'd be surprised how far you can go with this if you get good at something. I found a skateboard lying around a while back and took it out for a bit, girls checked me out ridiculously hard on the street the whole night. Basically stand out with some kind of DHV.

Learn more game theory. You shouldn't be just reading things and glueing yourself to a screen but you sound like you're going out and meeting lots of girls so that's good but it's important to figure out holes in your game by learning from others. Try watching some RSD stuff like Pimp from Julien, or reading about rapport/breaking rapport articles from girlschase. Check out an old show called "Keys to the VIP" about guys going out and picking up women.

Keep going out, get your fitness down, dress better, learn some skills in a hobby, read some more on game theory, do this and you'll be good. I'd also try to avoid reddit for advice on game. Redditors don't get laid, even on these forums. I'd spend more time lurking rooshvforum or nextasf. Also, get some accessories when you go out to game like a chain, watch, rings.

Don't be scared to try out new things in your game. If you're chasing too hard, try going more ass hole or abrasive, don't be scared to try new stuff. Experiment, see how it goes. Also, fuck numbers try to get them to yours the same night. Getting a number is a loss as far as I'm concerned, only do it as a last resort.

Spacejams1 · 2019-03-10T06:48:39+00:00

JBW theory confirmed

boondock_saint5 · 2019-03-10T00:02:11+00:00

Don’t grind on girls in clubs. It’s skeevy and a turn-off.

BigDickEnergy123 · 2019-03-09T23:10:00+00:00

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Title	I'm getting rejected a lot and something's not working
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Date	March 9, 2019 9:48 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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