How do you go from the nice guy to the player without being incongruent.

Kenic_In_MD · 2019-03-11T16:41:27+00:00

The answer isn't "Well, stop being nice!!!1111!" I believe the answer is more along the lines of be yourself, be who you are but put your needs first. For example, if a girl you are interested in needs help moving and you are the only one with a truck. Don't cancel other plans just to make sure you help her. Do your own thing she is an adult and will figure it out. Acting this way isn't incongruent you are just putting your needs first which is a perfectly normal and respectful thing to do.

The keyword here is respect, start respecting yourself more. TV and movies taught us as young men to put our coats over puddles for women when they wanted to cross the street. But what about my $1000 coat??? You need to respect yourself before others can respect you.

You mentioned going to the "player" stage, don't think it can happen that fast but as you start to talk to more and more women people outside can see you as a player it's up to you if thats what you want.

LazarusLongAgo · 2019-03-11T16:24:36+00:00

You don't. The two modes are incompatible.

run_fast-eat_ass · 2019-03-11T21:03:29+00:00

Stop doing things for people that you don't need to i.e. don't be a little bitch. Still be kind but don't let people take you for a ride. Read this (cba to type again :D) but use what I've said about not letting the people know you like them and get them to like you first.

Title	How do you go from the nice guy to the player without being incongruent.
Author	folasanmi
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	March 11, 2019 4:16 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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