Alright!

You made it. You've built your Brand. You understand what kind of women you want and what kind of women you attract. Dicks locked in the closet! You speak fluent Groot. You made the approach, #-closed, and exchanged some texts/calls.

Now it's time for the date!

Today, I'm going to offer you some tips as to how to set-up a date in a way that will 100% eliminate flakes, how to progress from one date to the next, and what type of dates you should be offering. I'm also going to list a few days ideas for any budget/situation.

The first thing I want you to do is make a bucket list of 52 items. Anything and everything you want to do in life, but try to localize as much if it as possible. Dont put down things like "Visit the Pyramids at Giza" or "Swim with Sharks off the coast of Monteray"; more like "Goto the local museum", eat at a FiveStar steakhouse, go to a concert at the local arena. Try to be as specific as possible, and use Google to look up these things and find out how possible (availability, accessibility, price, etc.) These things are in your area. Be sure to include specific places you want to go eat, dance, sing, play, whatever...

This is going to become your date list.

When you meet a woman and what to take her out, you're going to pick some thing from this list to INVITE HER TO JOIN YOU!

You never want to ask someone to "Hang out" or "chill", or "meet up". All these things express you don't have a plan. And it also indicates her attendance is required for you to do... something.

By inviting her to join you, it puts the focus on the activity, instead of some ambiguous outing. "I'm going to go here and do this on this day, at this time." is a lot better than "You wanna chill this weekend?"

It also expresse that you have plans with or without her. It's an invitation to be a part of something, as opposed to an invitation to maybe do something.

Make sense?

So, the way I handle things is by taking my DATE LIST, and by Wednesday, using it to make a plan for the weekend (hence the 52 line items). It should be things you can easily do and that are easily accessible.

So, Wednesday i decide that this weekend I'm going to take a ride up the coast on my motorcycle, stop at a (biker) bar for some drinks, then head back home.

That's when I call her... CALL.

If you're going to invite someone to do something with you, call them. It personalizes the invitation.

"Hey (cute girl). What do you have going on this weekend."

Now, she can only respond in one of two ways: Plans or No plans/no committal.

Plans:

"Hey Attitude. I'm going to my friends Bday party Saturday night. I was going to go get my nails done before all that. Why? What's up?"

"I was going to invite you to do something with me, but you have plans. Your friends Bday party sounds like it should be fun. Where's it going to be? How old is she turning?"

"Wait... what where you going to invite me to?"

"Doesn't matter. You have plans. We can do something the next time you're free."

"Well, I'm free Sunday..."

Now, this fabricated interaction is ment to express two things; 1) If she has plans, let her have plans. Don't try to pry your way into her life. You want to invite her into yours. And it doesn't matter if she has plans... YOU HAVE PLANS. You have something you're going to do with or without her. Don't obsess over her attendance. Live your life!

2) If she's into you, she will offer you a window. She will let you know when you can have her. If she doesn't, don't waste any more time or attention.

The idea is not to chase. You have a life. A full, happy life. You want to make her a part of it. If she's not showing interest, don't try to force it. Instead, focus on the women who are interested.

No Plans/Non-committal:

"Hey Attitude. I don't have much going on. May do laundry and need to study for an exam, but not much else. What's up?"

"Saturday afternoon I'm going for a ride up the coast and wanted to know if you'd like to join me. The weather is supposed to be beautiful and there's a bar where all the bikers hang out and drink I've always wanted to check out. So... you ridin? Bring your books... I can help you study."

"That sounds fun. What time should I be ready? How should I dress?"

And take it from there.

The point is this:

You're dating life should be a mirror of your individual life. You don't want ask someone to be a part of something ethereal; some vague, non-descript activity. You want to offer them a chance to see how you live your life. You want to invite them share a Day in your life.

Why does this eliminate 100% of flakes?

Two reasons: When someone flakes, it's usually because either 1) they weren't really that invested in the date/activity, or 2) Something better came along.

When you invite someone join you, you're specific about the details and it gives them all the info upfront. We are doing this activity at this time on this day. When information us presented to us this way, it becomes a mental staple; our brain says "Okay... on Saturday at noon I'm going to do this!", and when new information or activities are presented to us, our brain goes "Wait... I'm doing this on Saturday at noon... so I can't do that." And the more interested we are in said activity, the less likely we are to miss it.

Unless, like I said, some thing better comes along. In this case, again, what you're looking for is another specific window. If she cancels for any reason, you're looking for her to offer a specific time or date where she's available.

The second reason why this eliminates "flakes" is because you're still going to do whatever it is you had planned. What usually happens with "flakes" is it leaves you with an opening where you believed you had plans. "We were supposed to meet at 8 for dinner, but I haven't heard from her. Now I'm just sitting here wondering what I'm going to do tonight."

You're going to go have dinner! Doesn't matter if she's with you or not. Go do something you enjoy and make the most out of the situation. Don't waste time sitting around feeling sorry for yourself.

Live your fucking life!

Now don't confuse a flake with a legitimate excuse. Something may come up and she may not be available. It's fine, as long as she's willing to offer a window.

So, now that you know how to "invite" someone on a date, let's take a sec to talk about the dates that really matter.

IME, there are three or four dates that will really impact the progression of your relationship/interactions. These are:

The Meet and Greet (optional)

The Physical Activity

The "Ball"

The Intimate Setting

The Meet and greet is pretty self explanatory; it's when you basically just agree to meet up at a time and place and just focus on connecting and talking. The reasons I say it's optional is because this step can be replaced with a decent amount of communication and dialogue via text/phone. But it's where you really just focus on getting to know each other.

The Physical Activity: Bowling, Hiking, Pool, walk in the park, gym session, amusement park, bike ride, etc... this is all about getting them out of their comfort zone and seeing how they react to things physically.

The reason this date matters is it gives you a chance to see what their physical abilities and attributes are, but what kind of heart they have. Are they competitive? Are they a shit talker? Are they not physically gifted? Do they give up when they start to break a sweat? Do they push through, face their fears, etc. Physical activities show us who we are and how we handle challenges and adversary.

The Ball- give her a reason to look her best. Go to a nice restaurant or live music/comedy show. Give her an excuse to get all dolled up for you, as well as give her a chance to see you all dapper and suave. It'll go a long way to building the attraction.

The Intimate Setting- invite her over and cook her dinner. Have a picnic in a park. Drive someplace that has a great view and spark up a blunt. You want to get her alone. You want to see how she reacts and what her level of comfort and intimacy is when it's just the two of you and no distractions. This is where you really get a sense for your vibes and energies, as well as attraction and desire for each other. This will also more than likely be a precursor for secci tyme.

So there you have it. Make a list of things YOU want to do, start doing them, and invite her to join you on YOUR journey. Be specific and direct. And be conscious in how your dates will affect your progression.

Until tomorrow... "How to be a Sex God!"