Long time lurker here, and I've been seeing some things that have me a bit more irritated than usual.
First, a little about me: 34y/o male, 6ft, 210lbs, athletic build (I work out regularly), heterosexual, never been married, currently single and dating regularly. My resume includes somewhere's in the ballpark of 1000+ contacts and number closes, K-Closes, and F-closes, 500 plus first dates, (roughly) 150 sexual partners, five orgies, two threesomes, and one MFFF experience. I've dated nearly every nationality you can imagine; Caucasian, Afro-American, Hispanic, Asian (including Chinese, Japanese, Thai, Cambodian, and Filipino), French, Russian, Indian, and Native American. I've dated women 20yrs my senior (when is was in my late teens), and personally, never women more then five years my junior. I've dated women with Masters Degrees, and HS dropouts. I've dated bi-sexual women, athletic women, emo girls, pot heads, gamer chics, jocks, prom queens and debutantes, ride or die chicks, strippers, porn starlets, and almost everything in between. I've dated models and some of the most beautiful women imaginable, and I've dated women who where just shy of "Fugly as hell!", but had a great personality that made up for it. I've dated short girls (we're talking an inch shy of legally being a midget), and women who where six feet tall bare foot; women who were almost tragically thin, and women I couldn't lift if my life depended on it, and I can bench 305lbs max!
Long story short: I've been around.
All that said, and after reading many of the questions and advice offered here on r/Seduction, I'd like to believe that some of my experience can help clear some things up for those of you still struggling with figuring out how to meet men/and women, how to interact with them, and how to get dates, bed partners, long term relationships, etc.
First and foremost; the majority of post on r/seduction and r/dating advice seem to be about "How do I talk to this person about how I feel?" What do I say? Where do I go to meet people? How do I avoid looking like a complete idiot and making a fool of myself? What's a "golden opener"? How do I transition from a date to my place? How do I avoid getting "friendzoned"? It seems many of the subscribers to r/seduction and r/dating advice are looking for a play by play manual of meeting someone, talking to them, going out, getting physical, and having a relationship. Well, seek no further, because I'm about to give you the answer, based solely on my experience:
THERE IS NO MAGIC ANSWER!!
See, what many of you need to understand is that seduction techniques, PUA material, and so-called "Game Manuals", don't teach you how to pick up chicks/dudes; they teach you how to control yourself, how to increase your level of personal confidence, and how to become more outgoing and social. They teach you how to market yourself better to increase your odds of coming across more genuine, more sincere, and more appealing. But even then, when it comes to meeting someone, many times, the outcome has little to do with what you say and/or do, and more about the circumstances and situation.
If someone isn't in the right "head space" to meet someone, even if they find you attractive, its not going to happen. If they're already involved, just got their heart stomped on, have a ton of personal baggage they need to work out, or otherwise, just have some stuff going on, they may not be receptive to your advances.
Conversely, if someone is into you, you can say pretty much anything, and they'll still give you a shot. Believe me when I tell you, I've met and hooked up with women after saying some of the most outlandish shit you can imagine. I once met a girl at a shoe store while she was trying on heels. The first words I ever spoke to her: "No... those shoes only work if we're fucking!" Three nights later, we were! Likewise, I've been the picture of "James Bond" smooth, sending a woman a drink before going over and introducing myself, been the perfect gentleman, charming, funny, articulate, and sensual. And crashed and burned!
If someone is into you, if they are receptive to meeting someone, if they find you attractive, and if they are in the right frame of mind to engage you, if they are available (and sometimes even when they're not), then it'll happen. Otherwise, it won't. Period. There is no magic formula, no golden line, no super smooth approach, no mathematical calculation, no subtle gesturing, no jedi mind trick, there's nothing you can do to make a woman who's not interested in you suddenly weak in the knees, head over heels, wet in the panties into you.
But there are things that you can say and do, a way you can carry yourself, that will increase the attraction that's already there. And that's what r/seduction is all about; learning what you can do to increase attraction. Learning how to walk, talk, move, and even smile to make those little receptors in a persons brain go "Well what do we have here?"
If I approach a woman, and she's not interested, it's not because I have weak game or don't know how to talk to women. It's because she wasn't interested! Likewise, there are times when I haven't said two words directly to a woman, and she's stuffing her number in my pocket. And again, it's not because of any super game or magic way I wiggle my hips when I walk. It's the overall presentation.
Now, I could speak at length about the subtle psychology behind most rules of attraction and what have you; things you can say or do to make a fire burn a little hotter for you, or ways to peak someones interest once you already have it, but this post is already long enough. However, I'd be remiss if I didn't offer a few of the basics:
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