I don't know what to do

Teknodruid · 2014-04-27T16:51:55+00:00

No.

If you see a girl on the street and automatically think "She's too hot for me" you are in the wrong place little bro.

You need to flip that thinking and know that she is not good enough for you - but you could teach her to be.

18 is awkward... but you are defeating yourself before you ever get in the game with that thinking.

TVTestPattern · 2014-04-27T19:25:57+00:00

Relax young man... nobody is saying you can't have mad pussy everyday. You just can't have it right now.

We all know you want that right freakin now, believe me.

And you will, you just have some work to do first.

So take the advice you are getting here seriously, and get to work.

Lift, Learn, & Love.

Be fit & look attractive.
Learn stuff and be interesting.
Love your life for what it offers you.

Do these things... oh and get a club to fend off the women. Takes time... which you have... trade some of your time for being as excellent as possible.

Most of all, like I already mentioned, relax.

You're lack of chill is guaranteed to dry panties around the world.

Have you ever taught a dog to fetch?

At first they don't get it. The dog mistakenly thinks it's a game of keep away, and won't play ball. How do we get dogs to play fetch? We ignore irrelevant behaviours and praise good behaviours. Over & over till they eventually "forget" the whole "keep away" thing. The dog is buying into your frame, and that's to play fetch.

Same thing with girls... you ignore anything that isn't in your frame & encourage behaviours which are in frame. With repetition these girls will respond to your push/pull and move into your frame.

As an analogy:

I was teaching my dog fetch last year. He finally understood to come to me after retrieving the ball, but still was in "keep away" mode. Walking up to me, then turning his head away when I go to grab the ball. When this happens he is trying to assert his frame on me. (I want to play keep away) When he did that, I completely ignore him and move on to some other activity I want to do without him... no more playtime for him.

Rinse and repeat.

Pretty soon he's dropping the ball at my feet and whining to play.

Same thing girls do... Bats eyelashes, bedroom eyes, flash of smile... then BAM, NO, you can't have this! (Keep away)

Do not punish this behaviour... Move on and make sure she sees you having fun without her.

She comes back (she really wants to play) and plays keep away again.

Repeat.

And again...

If she has any assets, she already knows you and every other swinging dick she meets wants her. That's not the thing.

If you ever let a woman, (or your dog), know they get under your skin you are done guy. Stop rewarding girls for playing keep away, with your emotional reactions... they feed on that shit like vampires.

Until these girls perceive you as a quality, outcome independent guy you will continue to struggle with them.

It's all really just repetition.

How do you learn to lift? Repetition.

To play music? Repetition.

To make money? Repetition.

Social skills? Repetition.

Being awesome is mostly just a trick of forced perspective. It seems awesome to those who didn't see how you got there.

I'm a pretty awesome flute/sax player. People listen and often remark, "Wow that's great, you are so talented."

Ummm, not really.

It sounds like talent to them because they have no clue how somebody does it. My mom however, could talk about the years and years of practice while I sucked ass... talent? Pfft... Unless by talent you mean thousands of hours practicing.

We have a rule of thumb among professional performers. About the time you are sick of something you have been practicing, it's about ready for the public.

Understand?

monsieurhire2 · 2014-04-27T16:58:31+00:00

"I need sexual female contact."

No, actually, you don't. Your BODY desires it, craves it, wants it, etc. Why? To reproduce! This is all an evolutionary adaptation to increase the likelihood of reproduction. Your body literally floods you with drugs to coerce you into reproducing.

But guess what. You don't have money to support a wife and child.

If you actually had sexual contact with a girl, you run the risk of knocking her up, or getting a VD.

I'm just trying to put things into perspective for you.

While you are pining for the hot girls, they are going to the all you can eat buffet of dating whoever asks them out: guys ranging from their age to forties and fifties with money, celebrities, whoever has something to offer them. This doesn't meant you can't get a girlfriend, it just means you face stiff competition for the more attractive women.

Anyway, getting depressed about it is a waste of time. The only way you have a chance is if you focus ALL your energy on self-improvement: lift, learn, and find ways to make money ASAP, preferably without becoming a collegiate debt-slave.

Edit: Also, if you don't like how your "friend" are treating you; spend more time alone and work on self-improvement. Go out and meet new people. Life's too short to waste on people who try to drag you down with their bullshit.

swallowthisthrowaway · 2014-04-27T16:46:30+00:00

You're what Tyler RSD would call "not congruent". Basically, your friends can see that your behaviors are not really who you are, just something you're doing because you think it'll work.

Give it time and be more natural about it. Don't say things you wouldn't say to guys. Just be real.

easythrowaway123 · 2014-04-27T17:08:16+00:00

No. Shut the fuck up and go lift. If you've got acne or whatever either get some OTC shit or see a doctor. If your teeth are gross go to the dentist. Go buy some new clothes. If you don't have any money, get a job. If you don't read, start today.

IT ISN'T ABOUT THE GIRLS. IT ISN'T ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS. IT'S ABOUT YOU. THIS IS YOUR ISSUE AND YOU NEED TO FIX IT.

Your friends are probably right to make fun of you. You're probably a loser. Guess what? You can change. You can make yourself unstoppable. You understand what depression and desperation are, use that to fuel you in your relentless pursuit of self-improvement. Totally cut ties with everyone in your social group. Ghost on these fuckers. Go monk mode. Go MGTOW. Who cares what they think? If you do, you've already lost.

Subtletorious · 2014-04-28T09:41:26+00:00

Your friend tested your Frame. You folded when he called your bluff. If your friends can teach you anything, then watch and learn. If they can't help you on your journey, then don't give two fucks what they think or do.

You do not have an Abundance Mentality. Nobody ever died from lack of fucking. The WHO does not issue a Recommended Daily Intake of pussy.

And you are only 18. Fuck me, you're a baby. I'd give my left nut to be that age and learning Red Pill.

jsl2837 · 2014-04-28T03:30:25+00:00

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What is this?

rebuildingMyself · 2014-04-28T04:47:28+00:00

You're 18. You need to focus on yourself for a while. Invest in yourself. If you're in a public university , you have access to an amazing gym most likely. Use it! You're already paying for it.

Pick up some hobbies NOW and stick to them. Pick at least one social hobby. Colleges have student groups for everything. Boom, instant way to meet people (not just women) Personally, I like salsa as it gives you a skill to just dance with the hottest chick in the room with no hesitation and the scene is just classier in general. But you can do anything as long as it involves other people.

This won't just be for women, but for more positive friends in your life. It sounds like your friend is a blue pill guy blessed with good looks.

At 18,youre competing against guys who have had time to get their shit together (early to mid 20s and on). Women are at the peak of their sexual value now so are most likely the cuntiest they'll ever be.

swallowthisthrowaway · 2014-04-28T07:02:40+00:00

Yeah, I know that feel bud, sucks eh?

spicy_fries · 2014-04-28T14:20:33+00:00

Get new friends. Drop the worry. Lift. Work two jobs and save up some cash for a makeover. Increase your SMV.

Then start gaming hard.

Follow the Roosh Program

http://www.rooshv.com/the-roosh-program

swallowthisthrowaway · 2014-04-27T20:57:58+00:00

At this age and with all these hormones running through me, I need sexual female contact.

You haven't fully-embraced red pill thinking: you're thinking you need sex with a woman to survive. Yet, somehow you've survived 18 years without it.

Learn to recognise the difference between what you want and what you need to survive.

Trust me on this: sex is hyped up as the big be all and end all of male existence, which is why women think their pussies hold magic powers, but it simply isn't. I've had many peak experiences in my life that changed me as a man, cultivating deep, stoic maturity in me, and none of them were related to sex. I've stood in some of the most isolated spots on earth, alone. I've said goodbye as they turned off the ventilator keeping my oldest friend breathing. Sat quietly as the tumour growing on my mother's spine finally cut off her breathing, knowing she couldn't be saved, and had asked to not be resuscitated. Leapt into a river to save a friend's son from drowning, knowing I couldn't swim, but knowing I only had to get him back to shore, and it didn't matter if I was lost in the process.

Sex? Jesus man, I don't even remember the girl I lost my virginity with, only the potential suspects. Sex is nothing, sold as everything, to keep everyone insecure and buying shit they don't need to feel better about themselves. Hell, women think it's validation of their attractiveness, never open to the possibility that some guys will fuck anything to get off, always telling themselves that they're 'special' to the alpha studs who plow them.

Fucking is simply a pleasurable act, like eating chocolate, amplified, dependent upon the attractiveness and pleasantness of your partner, and if she has any weird hangups (too open or too guilty) about sex. The majority of women are terrible at sex, though they all think they're porn stars, which is why so much of my seduction process is training them to genuinely-respond to the sensation of their bodies at the touch of another human being, especially if they're under 28 or so, because you're most likely to get 'performed' response, based upon what they've seen in porn movies so guys will think they're 'hot', because they're narcissists, afraid of being negatively-judged.

You're 18, and you won't die if you don't have sex. You are choosing to let your fantasy of it dominate your life. Focus on improving yourself. Get new friends: your friends recognising you're changing and are reacting out of fear and jealousy that you're improving yourself. Most 'friends' people have want them to stay as mundane and lazy as they are, and will try to undercut you and make you doubt yourself. Find friends who are about challenging each other to self-improve - most likely at your gym.

Sex will happen naturally if you keep improving yourself, plan your life, and get out of your obsessive mindset about it. My advice: read up about State Control. You are choosing to be unhappy about this. Master your desires. Focus on your goals, and sex will happen, because girls hate a guy who is desperate for pussy.

You're blessed dude, you're figuring out this shit at eighteen. Most men never figure it out. The world is your oyster, but you have to take control of your life to make it happen. Put in the effort, you'll be rewarded, and have enough sex to see how unimportant it really is.

swallowthisthrowaway · 2014-04-27T16:59:27+00:00

"I need sexual female contact."
Get rid of attitude immediately. Replace it with "I need to become a man, and then females will need my contact." Keep working on the SMV. And never forget, your friend was right about you being a failure. Embrace that truth, suffer, and overcome.

Title	I don't know what to do
Author	swallowthisthrowaway
Upvotes	7
Comments	41
Date	April 27, 2014 4:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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