If you have real natural skills with women to the degree that there's no real need to be completely frustrated, and at the same time are still follow through the idea to use the seduction community to get better with women, then this post is for you.

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Long story short, natural skills are basically composed of our character imprints ("Charisma"), and on the upside, we do not need to put in willpower, conscious effort et cetera to get consistent results. It's just there. On the downside, besides that aging adds to the charisma, we cannot change much about it, and also we usually don't even remotely know what we're really doing there, how we do it and how it could be broken down for others to learn from it.

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Learned skillsets in seduction are, well, even learnable skills at all, they rationally make sense and you can break them down to explain them to others. On the downside, they require willpower, conscious effort and lots and lots of practise to get to a state where you have some consistency or can really well predict outcomes.

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So this is basically sort of a "life report" from a guy with mixed skills for other guys with mixed skills.

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First about all, everybody in the community will admire you for the natural part of your skillset, not because it's so extremely dramatic, but just because you can do that in automode, and it would normally take forever to just have this little skillset down so well that you could get even close to that.

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But this probably isn't why you came to this article.

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You probably came to this article, because like any other guy, mother nature left you in the spot in which you currently are, and like any other guy, you want to improve in the areas that are important for you.

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So now you're confronted with the seduction community and tons and tons of material, and after having been through all that, I have some experience with this to share:

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Learning Skillsets:

1) The techniques that will work best for you, will be those who are closest to your natural capabilities. With those, you can proceed very fast with minimal effort. So first thing you need to look for, is "fitting technique" for your charisma.

2) You can easily find out which techniques fit to your charisma by just practising for a while. If you have a terribly easy time making it work, because you can do part of it on automode anyway, you need very little effort to employ the technique. If you already do all this naturally anyway, you're too close though and don't need to learn it.

3) If you try a technique out for a while, and it becomes clear that "no woman buys this from you", like you get blown out or otherwise bad reactions left and right, then you're probably too far away from your natural charisma, and the amount of willpower and practise you would need to put in to make it work, will be very unfavorable

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In short, you need to learn technique that is not exactly the same as your natural skills, but also isn't so different that you feel like E.T. when trying it out. This way, women will easily let you get away with it, but you're still in a learning curve.

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Working with your natural skills:

1) Learn what you can about reading body language, especially about everything that is genetically induced. If it's genetically induced, it's natural for EVERYBODY. Consciously knowing about these things will make it flock towards your automode (in the long run) and just add to it.

2) Learn Mindfulness Meditation. A good book is "Tranquil Mind" by Rob Nairn (not the collectors edition, there should be an affordable copy somewhere on amazon). You can find all sorts of good uses for that form of meditation in seduction and also self-help. It will make you gain some peace of mind and resiliance, also you can do all sorts of tricks with it like shutting down negative thought circles and whatnot. Also, it's pretty easy to shut down pretty much anything else, and start to talk just solely from your charisma, which is at times a very cool technique if you basically overloaded a woman, and additionally it makes it easier to brush off rejection.

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In short, besides the little trick I mentioned at the end of 2), the coolest seductions happen when you combine the best of both worlds.