The point of this is to receive feedback from you guys, and for me to analyze my actions, while I write.

My social goals are to learn to interact with girls in a more “sexual” way, and to make friends.

Disclosures: 1-This is a really long post. 2-I don’t really see this as a field report, but I do want to write down and let you guys evaluate it. I am going to put the amount of time the situation a took place at the end of the paragraph, since i feel is somewhat important. 3-I am not negative-minded at all, when I say mistake I just mean, I could’ve done better. 4-I appreciate any feedback, in my thought processes, the situations, my actions or lack of, my “style” of writing or whatever.

(20M) Went out to this club arrived at about 7:58 pm, I was supposed to meet with an acquaintance, but when I arrived he wasn’t there quite yet. So I was kind of by myself on the line to enter, it was raining a little bit. There was this really good looking girl, she was with 2 friends of her, and one dude, and I did not approach or nothing so I think that was the first mistake. (I think I could have made at least a comment on it raining an the line taking too long to move). [5 min]

Then after that I saw another acquaintance, that was really happy to see me so I stayed with him and his friends for a while, I did not introduced myself to his friends, so well I think that was another mistake. I also want to make real friends, type that I can talk to, not just go out and party, so I think it was a double mistake since I did not joke around with them or nothing. [About 10 minutes until the girls came]

Then a group of 4 girls came to talk to him and his group of friends while we were on another line, I felt as if one of them was interested in me, she was looking at me, she was really pretty so I was also looking at her and smiling, she reciprocated. After a couple of minutes my acquaintance introduced me to them, all were really nice to me. Then my friend and the girl I felt attracted to started taking pictures and stuff, they even took one with me, but now in perspective i can tell that i was just standing there, doing absolutely nothing to engaged her and or her friends. So another mistake. [Another 10]

After this we kind of parted ways, but for a moment all 4 girls were alone, I felt as if they were waiting for the dudes I was with (maybe even me) to came up to them and tell them what to do, my friend did went to them, and I went behind him (Another mistake since I was kind of following his lead), I guess he did not pick up on the cue or he really did not gave a fuck about being with them. As I was just following I really did not say shit (another mistake, I am sure if I have told them to come with us, they would’ve come, and I would be kind of showing leadership) [around 2 minutes]

My friend decided to go since his friends were leaving, so again I was just following him and his friends, I was in the back of the group interacting with none of them. (A mistake, and a really dumb one since I felt they thought I was cool, and I am sure any of them would’ve reciprocated at least on small talk), after this we went to the liquor store this dudes just smoke, do not drink. But the girl that was smiling at me in the line was there so I basically came up to her and asked her if her friends were going to drink and if I could drink with them, she said yes, and her friends were also really cool with that (I stayed talking with the girl about 4 minutes), then the 4 girls and me went out to drink, I felt as if 3 of her friends, were super into me being there, even maybe the 4th girl, but she had a boyfriend. I was just kind of a friendly guy, I did made a couple of jokes an all 4 were really receptive to me, in perspective I can tell that if I had pushed, and made a move with any of them, she would’ve reciprocated, and the other 3 would be super cool with that, no cockblocking or nothing. (So this was a mistake, not making a move, or something, I projected myself only as a cool friendly dude who wanted only to drink, not be with any of them, they were all really open to me) [This took about 15 minutes until alcohol hit them] after they got tipsy, I can tell the interaction changed, the attraction towards me the “this dude is probably going to hit on one of us”, faded away, and was replaced with “he is friendly and funny, but not interested in escalating” after this we went to the bar, this time I did was talking to one of them and stuff, in the bar they found some guy friends of them, and they were more pushy, and gave the vibe of I want whatever with any girl, and I can tell 3 of them were into them, and I feel it was just for their vibes, since I don’t think they were “cool people” or they were more physically “attractive” than me, after this all of us went to dance, and some of the guys kind of just picked one girl, and were pushy, so they kind of hook them. (Again this dudes were super receptive to me, and I really did not interacted with them, if i would’ve they would be really cool with that so a mistake here) [1 hour to hour and a half]

So the girls were with one guy each one, and there were like other 4 dudes again all receptive, still I was not engaging and I guess I was not even friendly. In perspective at this point in time I grew some kind of “social oneitis” and I was just being there, not really interacting with any of them, even though they all were open, and I feel as if they actually wanted someone to engage them, and make them have a good time (so this was another mistake). At one point in time someone asked were I met the girls, I said just tonight, and one of the girls said “we just met him, we adopted him”. This was the point i really realized they were not interested in me anymore so after a couple of minutes after that I bounced. [45 min]

I went to look for other friends, the one I was supposed to meet from the beginning, he was with this 2 girls, and again I felt as if both of them were into me, or if at least if I had made a move they would’ve reciprocated. I stayed with them until they left, and again I feel that the attraction between the girls and me started to fade away since I did not make a move. [1 hour]

After that I went and danced for a while, I saw a girl that was with this boring-ass-dude. She was looking towards me and the guys i was with, as if she just wanted someone to tell her to come up, engage with her and make her have fun. [For the rest of the night until I left]

Things I realized while writing this post: I feel I am attractive to girls. I feel people (at least friends of friends) is really open to me. Even in clubs people get bored and are looking for someone to give them fun. I need to learn to show my intentions faster with girls.