The preamble to this Plate is an ASKTRP question I asked Here

So after I send 9 Plate sweaty, post-workout pictures (she asks for them) she texts (word for word):

Plate: "MMmmm...love your body....Perfect sight to wake up to (love emoticon)"

TFC: "And I yours. You free soon?"

Plate: "I really love spending time with you TheFastCat. But I can't because of the whole bunch of different reasons I've mentioned before."

TFC: "Those reasons are silly, Plate. We are great together. Like sushi and ginger~" "And you know it."

Plate: ":* :* :*"

TFC: "Let's get together Friday for dinner or a movie and playtime. Are you available at six?"

[10 hours later]

Plate: "I want to TheFastCat. I have fun with you and you feel SO amazing but ultimately I need SO much more from someone I'm sleeping with. So because of that I can not. It severly disrupts my social life... (she inserts the monkey "see no evil" emoticon and a kiss face) sorry for the late response I had to really think about it)"

TFC: (I insert the monkey hear no evil emoticon)

{Some sexualized banter between us including me linking her to a girl porn website that she likes and asks if I make submissions to blah blah}

TFC: "So miss Plate what do you need from someone you are sleeping with? More than sushi?"

[Not word for word, condensed hamstering] Plate: "Sushi is at the top... But basically you have to tell me what you think of me and what you are feeling and we both have to not share the other"

TFC: [I correct her and remind her there are contingencies for threesomes with Victoria Secret Models]

Plate: [See agrees and amplifies to include a male actor as well]

TFC: "Well I am an open book. If you'd like to know what I think I will tell you." "It sounds like you want to play truth or dare."

Plate: "Of course I want to know what you think and how you feel :)"

TFC: "Write down all of your questions and I will too and we can go through each of them together"

Plate: "Ok"

TFC: "After that tell me when you are free to get together and discuss.."

Plate: "Ok. I can do tomorrow"

TFC: "Sounds great Plate. Come to my place anytime after six PM, We'll grab food and then slug it out."

Plate: "Haha ok"

Some definite blunders - namely so much texting, "a list" to discuss (wtf?) etc - but all in all set the stage to enter back into my domain -- one-on-one charisma. I don't want to drop this plate because she's really sexy and I have fun with her but also I don't want commitment so I am looking on how to appeal to her need for reassurance and security and appreciation while also allowing myself room to spin other plates (have a bunch right now).