I was a typical insecure 13-year-old when I came across the youtube legends Kong, Jesse, and Jason.

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Still this day I am amazed, shocked and inspired the shit these dudes would say to women.

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Kong: “Kiss me if I'm wrong but, dinosaurs still exist right? “

The Gorgeous red-head: “nooooooo……..”

Kong: “ well sucks to be me then *goes in for the kiss\* “

The Gorgeous red-head: “ no no no :) !” while laughing hysterically

I was hooked.

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I became a loyal fan of simple pick up and dove head first in this awesome supportive community.

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SP lead to seduction reddit

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Seduction Reddit lead me to Mark Manson Blogs

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Mark Manson blogs lead me to buying his book “ Counter-Intuitive Guide To Not Giving A F*ck”

-On the side note, this is a deff must-read, while I don't agree with everything in the book.

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IamMarkManson lead me to Coach Corey Wayne and buying his book “ How To Be A 3% Man”

“ The masculine energy is all about purpose, drive, and direction. Its mission is breaking down barriers”

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God, I love that quote. It just makes sense.

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And of course, how could I not come across Tripp by Trip Advice and his famous “How to text A Gir” video, Alpha Male Strategies & The Dojo Bowl- a highly under-rated self-development YT channel. Highly recommend

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With all the knowledge I was soaking up, slowly but surely I was starting to take action. Man, I could not tell you how hard it was cold approaching women for the first time. The bitch butterfly’s, the stumbling across my words, the REJECTIONS. It was a lot to take in but I kept going with it.

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As J.Cole has said “ If practice makes perfect, then I'm practice’s baby”

I was doing so many sets, so consistently over a period of time, I started having success.

Getting the number was a breeze.

Going on dates was even easier.

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Hell, I fucked around, got so good I started to sleep with the girls who I would approach. I felt like a raving success story. For the first time, I was experiencing life in GOD MODE. I was on top of my own world!

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Who knew it would come crumbling down a couple of years later when I would be fired from my serving job for sexual harassment.

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Her name was Julia.

Latina women, 5’2, dark straight hair, light skin complexion, who weighed 125lbs and had the personality to light up any room.

We had a quite of few things in common.

She was into fitness, I was into fitness. She read the same self-improvement books as I would.

For cardio we both did boxing.

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We clicked and over the of a few weeks, we got close. We’d joke around with each other, call each other names.

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She would bump into me and say “what are you going to do about it”.

I’d respond with something quick and witty like “ohhhhhh you'll see”.

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We worked in the restaurant industry as servers. She’d be hella busy tryna get drinks for her tables. She takes a cup out and I’d put it right back.

“Staphhhhhh I'm so busy!!!!!! “

That shit would make me chuckle.

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I wanted to make a first move but I didn't know quite how because the only time we saw each other was at work. Going back to all my pickup knowledge, I've got to get some sort of contact information from her.

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Thinking to myself “ How about her number? Nah that's too forward. Fuck it ill just get her snap”

“Yoooooo Julia whats your snap?”

And she constantly takes my phone……

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One usual 3rd shift evening at work, were we doing the usual, shootin’ the shit, talking. Somehow some-fucking way we get onto the topic of her ass

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remember, Julia is a fitness girl. She squats…. A lot. She does lunges and what not. In plain English, her ass looks amazing

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And then she asks me this question: “ is my butt getting smaller…?”

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I'm shook at this moment. I respond with a “sure” and walk away.

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She asks me this question two more times and on the 3rd time I let it on on her.

“Yeahhh your butt is getting smaller deal with it ! :) “

Her: “I can't believe you”

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She walks away all angrily looking but eyes back at me with a smiling smirk before entering the next room.

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In my mind, I'm thinking “ this is great she deff into me and im into her obviously. I want to take her out and show her a good time. I got her snap. But now I need another move to move the interaction even further. Ima slap her ass to keep things playful between us. Don't get bitch butterfly’s Alvin. You wouldn't do this unless you knew for sure that she was into you. Matter of fact she did ask you if her ass was getting smaller. Ima grab her ass to be like “nahhhh it looks the same”.

You ready? Let's get it. “

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As she putting in her food in the p.o.s system, I go up behind her and under-grab her left butt cheek and say “ I was just playing Julia, your butt looks the same”. Her expression? Surprised, shook. She hits my left arm and says don't do that while her face is blushing red.

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That all went down at 9 pm, at 11 pm my manager calls me into her office and asks me what happen with you & Julia earlier tonight and my heart drops………………

“ damnnn she told a manager…..”

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I was basically fired on the spot. Never to see my co-workers or Julia ever again.

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Can't speak for everyone but swearing by pick-up like it was a religion was doing me harm. It made it seem like talking to women was a COMPLETE GAME. As if our interactions was a strategic chess match and hitting checkmate was 69’ing with her pussy.

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I had to respond to her shit test in a cool calm collected masculine manner. I had to touch her either on her arm, shoulder, waist, or lower back to establish my dominance and communicate that I'm a potential lover, not a gay best friend. Since I was the man in interaction, I was my responsibility to successfully lead the interaction to the bedroom.

All of this tedious hard work I needed to do when In actuality all I wanted to was see was her wet pussy lips wrapped around my dick.

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Pick-up advice and the seduction community will, unfortunately, gamify your relationship with women. It has you thinking that if you approach the girl in a masculine nonchalant manner, text her a certain way, and then say a charming one-liner phrase, you will get to sleep with her. Which is false.

The short term tactful advice that's preached can cloud your judgment in a heated moment and get you into some serious trouble as it did for me.

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Think about it for a second man. Our fathers and grandfathers were not reading books on how to increase their game but yet still got the girl (which is our mom’s and grammies)

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And by the way, your idea of ‘Hook Up Culture’ doesn't exist.

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The notion that a guy can do the most intimate thing with another human being and then act as if nothing happen is unheard of. My friends “friends with benefits” is a phrase that was coined 7 years ago when a movie with that title and subject came out in theatres. As a result of this way of thinking, young people of today are having less sex than any other generation was when they were the same age. Read this article here if that piques your interest.

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My bros if you want a better sex life, as most of us on this subreddit are looking for following this simple formula:

The 3 Stages of Friendship between Men and Women

Strangers

All women who you don't know on a first name basis is a stranger to you (obvious-fucking-ly amirite)

Friends

It's really easy to talk to women and become friends when you have absolutely no desire to fuck them. You naturally will start to talk about subjects that peaks your interest like you would with your normal guy friends.

Sex and Romance

One lucky night you & a or the girl(s) who you are friends with will be at a party or a function together. The vibe of the night is right and the both of yall are probably a little buzzed. She will be unusually close to you and if your down you will accept that.

You make one small move like putting your arm around her or sharing some the blanket that you have and she devours it. One thing literally leads to another and the both of you have some bomb sex that night.

The next time you see each other she will act a little awkward.

And the both of yall have a decision to make. Do you guys want to things a further into exclusive and relationship zone or just stay as friends.

The former outcome she becomes your girlfriend, and the latter you two just stay as friends and decided it was a hookup.

THAT what you just read above is how a ‘hook up’ actually goes down.

Not you were on tinder, matched with a girl, asked if she like bread, then asked if she liked to be choked and magically you two meet up at her place for Netflix and Chill.

Its worth noting that only a small percent of women you are your friends will get to this stage. Think 15-20%. So If I have 10 female friends, I might only end up having sex with 2 of them.

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Enclosing ill leave ya with this: sex is not the most important thing in your life.

  1. Building a jaw-dropping muscular physique for yourself,
  2. Being able to make[alot]money will you sleep,
  3. Surrounding yourself with optimistic like-minded individuals as your friends,
  4. Making sure the relationship with your immediate family members is solid,
  5. Traveling and broadening your world view
  6. Volunteering & donating money for a cause you believe in
  7. Having hobbies and passions that interest you

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If you focus on attaining those 7 things in order, I can virtually guarantee your lack of female ass cheeks bouncing in your face for free will be a thing of the past.

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Till next time brotha

-Alvin

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TL;dr

Q: Why does ‘PUA Advice’ make you worse w/women

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A: Pua will, unfortunately, gamify your relationship with women. It has you thinking that if you approach her in a masculine nonchalant manner, text her a certain way, & say some magic one liner charming phrase you will get to sleep with her. Which is false.

All of these short term tactful advice can cloud your judgment in a heated moment and get you into some serious trouble as it did for me.

If you want a better sex life, follow this formula:

Strangers

All women who you don't know on a first name basis is a stranger to you (obvious-fucking-ly amirite)

Friends

It's really easy to talk to women and become friends when you have absolutely no desire to fuck them. You naturally will start to talk about subjects that peaks your interest like you would with your normal guy friends.

Sex and Romance

Only a small percentage of women you are your friends you'll get to smash. Think 15-20%. So If I have 10 female friends, I might only end up having sex with 2 of them.