After 12 years of marriage back on the dating scene.

Hornstinger · 2019-07-19T14:38:23+00:00

I wouldn't push yourself too hard to find women; moreover, join clubs, societies and activities that you either

a) you already enjoy doing, or;

b) something new you'd like to learn

From there you'll make new friends (both guys and girls) and somewhere down the line, you'll be meeting friends of friends etc.

Put it this way, I joined a rugby club (no females or female teams in my club) and met 100+ new guys. Through those guys, I met their partners and friends of friends. I've been out on tonnes of dates and as a foray, sometimes you won't even need to do any work as those who already have partners love trying to set you up.

I'm 33.

TLDR: experience life and join a club or society.

clemens12345 · 2019-07-19T14:49:55+00:00

Be aware that the fear of approching a woman you don´t know, will never completely vanish. But you will become more courageous the more you do it. Try to be social with everybody: Say hi to people you don´t know, wish everybody you talk to a great day, look for opportunities where you can help people you don´t know. From there start approaching women you find attractive where ever you are. You have to be willing to take the risk of being rejected. It´s totally fine to not look cool in the first few seconds when you approach someone. Embrace it, own it when you feel a bit nervous. Feel the Fear and do it anyways. This will increase your courage and your selfesteem.

yardapesbb · 2019-07-19T14:49:52+00:00

Look at this post: https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/b4oaj9/at_age_30_these_are_my_gems_of_knowledge_along/

Also get on Dr Glover's email list to get discounts on some of his podcasts. He has been where you are a couple of times. His book is good too. https://www.drglover.com/

Not sure what the demographics are where you live but you might have to move to find a bigger dating pool.

Imperator_Pyra · 2019-07-19T14:51:15+00:00

I'm also 33 and I wholeheartedly disagree with the other commenter. Yes, finding a partner through your social circle may be easier than what I will suggest in a moment, but... If, as you say, you were never good with women, then hitting on girls that you get to know through friends will lead only to you getting labelled as "that guy" and alienating a bunch of people. My alternative: get good with women by approaching cute strangers and practicing that way. That's what I'm doing. If you live in a big city, then there's practically no fallout even if you fail with some girl, you'll probably never meet her again, you're pretty much anonymous, so you're free to make mistakes and learn from them. Also, cold approach pickup (fancy term for chatting up cute strangers who you have no social ties with) gives you a much larger group of girls that you can hit on than your social circle (unless you're some sort of social butterfly that has as many friends as some rockstar would, but if that was the case you would likely not be asking any advice on here anyway). EDIT: tl;dr DO push yourself hard to meet new women, otherwise how are you supposed to get good with women?

atticusfinch1973 · 2019-07-19T15:55:14+00:00

Online my friend. If you just want to get your feet wet and have fun Tinder is a gold mine for guys your age, especially if you're fun and attractive.

It's a whole different world out there and can be a ton of new experiences if you approach it the right way.

Title	After 12 years of marriage back on the dating scene.
Author	TheLostWill
Upvotes	10
Comments	7
Date	July 19, 2019 1:50 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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