I'm genuinely curious.

There seems to be a perception that those who make money out of teaching dating are doing something wrong while those who just give it away for free are treated like saints.

I am considering paying someone to teach me how to improve my dating life and quite honestly I believe he can give me better advice than anyone who gives it away for free.

Not because "oh he gets paid for it so he must be good" but because that's what he spends the majority of his time on, its his job after all.

The thing about guys who give dating advice away for free is, they typically don't have any experience coaching someone over a long period of time. They just answer one or two questions here and there.

And they don't spend much time on dating or seduction in general because they literally can't because they have to do something else to make a living.

But if dating and seduction is your living then you can not only afford to spend a lot of time on that but you will be very compelled to spend time on it.

And besides, I want to be the best that I can be when it comes to my dating life and I don't think I'll ever find a mentor that'll care enough for me to help me get there without at least giving him something in return.

Even if I had a best friend who was amazing at dating who could also teach it to me really well, he really wouldn't give me that much time because he has a job and other things to take care of but if I had someone like that whose job it is to teach me then I'd then I'd get all the time with him that I want.

I really want to see an argument for free advice though, something beyond "just do it yourself" because I've been doing it myself a lot already and am still not happy with the results.

Its just that I want to examine every side of something before making a decision on it and I really want to see a compelling argument for only learning dating for free so that I can weigh both sides properly before I make the final call.