How do you become comfortable expressing desire and sexuality with women?

smoothmax · 2019-09-29T01:02:14+00:00

You let it seep into your being and you don't even worry if you're projecting it or not. You will be and you can't stop it.

But it's like a radio station. People know that it's broadcasting but they don't tune it in or pay attention to it if it's "not for them". Women of all ages after puberty will notice it. Old ladies and female relatives will acknowledge it and will be ok with it if it's "what you are" and you're entirely normal in every other way.

For example I was talking about personality types with some of my female relatives. I was talking about how guys can be classified as a bad boy, nice guy, leader or provider. One of the young ones said, "We always thought you were a fuckboy." Lol

Teenage girls are experimenting with their radio and will tune in your vibe but that's cause they're not calibrated yet. Women in the office will be ultra calibrated but if you pay attention you will notice sometimes that a "very married" woman will indulge herself in what she thinks is a very discreet way.

pnadlerlaw · 2019-09-29T01:10:12+00:00

Idk man. The most difficult part is actually feeling sexual desire yourself. It’s difficult, because guys either joke about being horny all the time, or they exaggerate being horny all the time because it makes them feel more masculine and virile, etc. So, for women, it creates this expectation that a man is just horny all the time, or very easily horny, or at the very least, able to be made horny without much effort, and certainly with a moderate or high amount of effort.

After college, sexual desire just isn’t the same. It loses its magic and doesn’t quite have the same appeal. The most difficult part is finding that desire and motivation. The rest is easy and automatic once you have something driving you and motivating you to move forward.

If desire and motivation aren’t your issue, then, it’s just about feeling comfortable with your gender role as a man. If you need some therapy, then make use of some therapy. Shake off the anti-male men are bad anything masculine or having to do with sex is bad childhood brainwashing. Not only is it okay to be a man, being masculine is good and positive.

The main benefit of masculinity for women is that it provides an excuse to enjoy sex without feeling bad or guilty for wanting to enjoy sex.

In order to fill that role, you have to be the one who wants to have sex. It’s a role, don’t take it so personally. It doesn’t mean that’s who you are as a person. That’s just a role you’re playing, it’s a role I’m playing, it’s a role the overwhelming majority of men play.

Think of it like dating. Do you feel like paying for the bill during the first date? Honestly. Isn’t it humiliating and dehumanizing in a way? It is, if that’s how you choose to see it. But it’s also courteous and a form of caretaking, in a way, right? You can see how we do things we don’t really feel like doing (like saying that she looks good or doesn’t look like she’s put on any weight, or doesn’t look fat, or going through the motions of love, etc.) for the other person.

Well, this is just like that. Try telling yourself this social script:

I’m not afraid to play the role of a man, so I can make it easier for other person to enjoy feeling like a woman.

It starts from within and extends outwards. You can’t force it or fake it without it coming off as weird. It had to be a genuine change in your mental state.

Tony Robbins has a good video talking about objective facts versus how we choose to give meaning to those facts: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=cflpNozNM2Y (worth listening to).

Then, it’s just a matter of doing. I hear and I know. I see and I understand. I do and I learn.

You just have to be aware of how you cause a woman to shift emotional states, and feel her emotional state. It can’t be a mystery to you. Then, have fun being a little forward and risqué with her, and have her feel comfortable receiving and going along with it. She want to, she just wants you to initiate and lead.

Also, try reading the first Fifty Shades book (I know; but just do it), and https://www.amazon.com/Bared-You-Sylvia-Day/dp/0425263908/ref=nodl_

FrankyCastiglione · 2019-09-29T00:16:30+00:00

Imagine something:

Imagine women enjoy sex just as much if not more than you do.

Because it's true. At least from my perspective of communicating with women.

She's waiting for "Mr. Right" (friendly, funny, masculine, unafraid) to come along and sweep her off her feet.

Women get approached a lot daily by dudes who just get it wrong.

YOU can gain her interest by being a silly fool who isn't afraid of her saying "I have a BF". She can be married to the guy that owns your bank and STILL f**k you.

I know😎

Be amusing and challenging and mix in your sexual interest by telling her you want her.

You'd be shocked at your positive results.

I was.

Title	How do you become comfortable expressing desire and sexuality with women?
Author	Rx_Red
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Date	September 28, 2019 11:49 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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