Seduction literature: relationship vs casual sex

smoothmax · 2019-10-08T14:51:46+00:00

There is a pickup course out there called Girlfriend Activation System focused on finding and keeping a gf. I thought it was not bad.

There are no actual rules about when to sleep with someone. PUA coaches usually say the sooner the better, and it doesn't hurt any future relationship.

One of my female friends told me, "If I really like a guy I never sleep with him on the first date, otherwise it spoils things. But if I don't care that much about a guy I'll sleep with him right away"

My buddy said he had a similar talk with a girl and she said, "Nowadays if I really like a guy I say what the hell, I'll sleep with him on the first date."

rich_god · 2019-10-08T14:41:59+00:00

Labels are just ways to structure your life. As long as you don’t label anything as a relationship, it’s casual. Casual basically means what you’re saying.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-10-09T02:17:28+00:00

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Siyuen_Tea · 2019-10-08T14:56:54+00:00

Functionally, not much.

Here's the thing, if you don't have sex relatively soon, you will be put in the friendzone. Keeping it vague will keep it interesting to her but most people will eventually gravitate to a label. Whether that's bf, fuck buddy, casual fling, really depends on her personality.

Flirting for fun is good practice, it'll especially help you learn about shit tests. Do it with multiple women not just one.

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WIA20XX · 2019-10-09T10:00:08+00:00

What, if anything, changes in pickup artist / seduction material if you’re not explicitly aiming for casual sex?

In terms of the classic pull sequence.
- Open/attract.
- Wait for her to react/express interest.
- Get investment to cement attraction.
- For an LTR, Evaluate her non visual qualities based on your LTR criteria, not just red flags and green flags (DTF signals).

But proceed to bang post haste, lest ye be forgotten.

I’m not necessarily going in looking for a relationship either, I prefer to leave it ambiguous.

You and every other guy that wants to play the field. Unless she invests everything, she loses interest. That's why this uncertainty thing rarely works.

I guess I just want to play the game a little with someone and have fun.

Unless you play for keeps, you're fooling yourself. If you have no intention of getting the girl in bed, you're just a flirt/tease, and she'll stop taking you seriously.

I know I’m attracted, and I just want to develop that and get closer to the person, not necessarily get them in bed as quickly as possible.

Again, this is not some novel idea. Guys fail at this because the girl loses interest in him as the next bright shiny object catches their attention.

But try it out and report back. I love being wrong, it means I can learn something.

Title	Seduction literature: relationship vs casual sex
Author	ManyParts
Upvotes	18
Comments	16
Date	October 8, 2019 2:11 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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