Nov 3, 2019

This was my first time going to a club ever, and I went alone. I’d been working up to this for a while now. I was fearful and anxious, but also excited. I arrived just after 11pm. I checked my coat, found out one of my buddies from my martial arts club works there. After a brief chat I headed to the dance floor.

Not really knowing how to dance, one of my goals was to practice and enjoy dancing. The dancefloor was nearly empty, but a fat girl grinded on me which was something I guess lol. She said I looked lonely. I kept dancing for a while and noticed a group of two girls, an 8 and a 9. A bit later I approached the 9 and complimented her dance moves. She said thanks but didn't seem too interested, plus I couldn't think of anything else to say so I left the set. Later on her friend actually approached me on the dance floor and we danced for a moment, but I had no idea how to really dance with her. I spun her the wrong way and it was probably kind of awkward for her so we stopped dancing with eachother but there was still a good vibe there I think. Later on I saw a couple guys approach the two girls and they seemed to be successful so I moved on.

I watched guys approach girls on the dancefloor. After I saw some guys do it I approached a few more girls to dance but got rejections. I basically just got their attention and offered my hand. I approached about 5 girls total. I didn’t see anyone left to approach really so I left around 1pm.

Things I did right:

- I faced my fears and went out

- I danced

- I approached more girls than I ever have in a night

- I asked girls to dance (approached on the dance floor)

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Things I could have done better:

- Should have approached more girls, meaning 7 and up. I was too critical and picky with who I approached.

- I think I should approach girls faster on the dancefloor. I waited too long and I think it showed I lacked confidence

- I should take breaks from dancing and approach girls that aren’t dancing i.e. standing around.

- There is a bar attached to the club, I should periodically visit that bar to find more girls

- Stay until the end of the night

- Don’t worry so much about dancing – I was in my head a lot and I just need to enjoy it.

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Sticking points:

- Approaching girls to dance

- Dancing with girls

- Your own dancing.

- Stay out later, don’t quit

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All in all, it was a successful mission. I accomplished all of my objectives. I can't wait until next week!