What should my face look like?

GravelBikes · 2019-11-04T15:20:36+00:00

That's just how your face is. It's called resting bitch face. Don't overthink this and try to change your face, your just gonna get uncomfortable putting up fake expressions.

2019-11-04T15:29:01+00:00

When I was in Jr high, I learned the word depression because a girl just pointed at me and blurted out, "why does he look so mean and depressed?" So I was self-conscious of how I hold my face for the majority of H.S, eventually, I was worrying less and got less of those comments.

One thing that helps a little is watching charismatic news anchors or youtubers, doing your own webcam recordings, and comparing them, repat and try to get closer to their vibe.

But that doesn't REALY change things. What I learned in (mostly) fixing the issue, was that the way people hold themselves is just a collection of symptoms of their moods and beliefs. I've benefitted from striving to be more aware of myself physically, and emotionally. It's easy to suppress uncomfortable thoughts and feelings and takes time to recognize them again. Meditation and journaling are the primary ways of regaining that awareness.

Getting to those root feelings and thoughts is more beneficial than trying to intellectualize the perfect facial expression because no one wants to have to act all the time. Even if you become good at keeping some "ideal" face, people will be able to sniff out the inauthenticity. You'll be able to make some interactions more enjoyable, but situations where you're really evaluated, cold approach, dates, job interviews, you need congruence between how you look and how you subconsciously feel.

smoothmax · 2019-11-04T15:54:35+00:00

Smiling in response to things that make us happy is a natural thing. Whereas smiling all the time is a sign of weakness, a sort of perpetual surrender to the people around you.

Many people lose the ability to smile spontaneously. But you can re-train yourself by practicing in front of the mirror. With a neutral face, imagine that you suddenly see a beautiful woman, or a really good friend or beloved family member. Make yourself do a big, shit eating smile. Hold it for about 3 full seconds then relax. Wait 30 seconds then repeat.

This will feel fake at first because you have lost the reflex. But after a few days of practising this for 5 minutes at a time you will regain the natural, spontaneous ability to smile.

manonpoint_com · 2019-11-04T17:33:20+00:00

Not sure about your style, but facial hair/changing hair style can actually impact this. Also, it's not that important, unless you're one of those guys who never smiles even in conversation. Smiling and laughing is attractive, generally speaking.

DammitElam · 2019-11-04T23:17:28+00:00

You should look like you just finished having the biggest laugh. Imagine you and your buddies did something hilarious and now you’re all just sitting there with a little smile thinking “haha, life is awesome”.

Title	What should my face look like?
Author	LORD-THUNDERCUNT
Upvotes	1
Comments	6
Date	November 4, 2019 2:45 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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