I hate the fact that I am supposed to approach and do all the hard stuff while women have it on the plate

PiperBigBell · 2019-11-27T00:12:44+00:00

Funny . . All that value we as men give away with no standards. It's up to you and only you to determine who you're gonna fuck with. You do the initial pursuing. But once she realizes what she has, you need to let her pursue. As men we have way more overall value then women.

And while a lot of guys just want ass, most chicks want relationships. That's where all that value, work we put in shines. You don't put a high enough price on your manhood and what it took to get it there. You're still stuck at the level of pussy. You don't demand enough from women.

If you demanded more from them you wouldn't feel like this. You'd feel like it's a bit more of a mutual exchange. That said . . This isn't the sub to complain. Love yourself more.

kandy96 · 2019-11-27T00:12:58+00:00

Sure this is how society is, but we can only blame the guys that throw themselves at each and every girl for this mentality. Girls know that guys will come up to them even if they don't put in effort. I've personally switched my outlook on this and yes I will approach girls first, but only if they are showing interest first (eye contact, etc.) "Cold approaching" each and every girl you find attractive is what gives them that confidence. Let them initiate...

2019-11-27T00:43:49+00:00

Sometimes I think the same. But while it is easy for them to get random men, I believe it's harder for them to get a quality man. For us average guys, it can be a very long and frustrating way to get a relationship. But once we have convinced a woman of our true value, they will probably commit more. So women get quantity but want quality. Many men want quantity but are more likely to get quality. Just my experience, I expect many to disagree here. In my eyes, this makes sense from a evolutionary point of view where women want to make sure the father of their kids is a good long term selection.

Atriev · 2019-11-27T01:17:05+00:00

You’re entitled to your own opinion.

In my opinion, I like having the power and being the one with the choice to choose whoever I want to connect with.

2019-11-27T00:05:06+00:00

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Dionysus19 · 2019-11-27T00:33:23+00:00

If you want to be 400lbs on a couch then yeah you are not going to get girls or the only girls you are going to get are the ones that are putting the same lack of effort into themselves.

Those things men have to do like shower and get a haircut is just basic self care and most of it has nothing to about getting women but just giving a shit about being your best self. Because girls won't give a shit about a guy who barely gives a shit about himself.

So you can be mad at women or the dynamic all you want, it doesn't change anything so its a complete waste of your energy, time and emotions to be angry about. Life's not fair and they are probably a fugload of things girls have to work hard for that we don't understand so it's simple move on from it.

It's simple, the more hard work you put into yourself, the less hard work you have to put into girls, they will start coming to you. Or just dont put the effort in but also don't bitch about it because you are accepting the fact that you will not get women when you are choosing to be a 400lbs video gamer.

2019-11-27T02:32:50+00:00

Don’t hate the player hate the game

ImStuuuuuck · 2019-11-27T03:05:35+00:00

Wish i had a Pic of my 350 lb furry nasty ass with my hot ass beautician ex. Or the hot ass bassist I was banging before, or the Bootleg Alicia Keys, or the pair of lesbian alcoholics I send to tandem bang (all gone when I killed Facebook) but trust and believe it CAN happen (although I was a metal drummer and not much of a gamer) but if a chick is into you she'll even JOIN you on your hobbies! (hell, my ex bought me portal 2 and some extra controllers and then when I lost it, she bought me portal 2 AGAIN and used to play call of duty with me)

You just gotta be the best you you can be. If you want to be a 400lb piece of shit, then you get out there and be the biggest piece of shit with some fucking conviction, LIKE YOU MEAN IT!

Mr_Zarathustra · 2019-11-27T03:42:16+00:00

Resentment.

Locate all resentment about the conditions you feel are unfair. Eliminate it. It's useless to you.

recyclablebanthas · 2019-11-27T03:44:30+00:00

I hate the fact that I am supposed to approach and do all the hard stuff while women have it on the plate

Here's the thing. It's certainly frustrating for men. We have a tricky and difficult road in front of us trying to figure this stuff out.

But women don't just get it laid out on a platter for them.

Many of the guys who cold approach them are awkward guys
Many of those awkward guys do creepy and/or severely inappropriate things, like:
- Follow them for blocks after they've been rejected, verbally threatening them.
- Walk up and open a girl at the bar by cozying up next to her with all the familiarity that a husband might exhibit.
- Walk up behind a girl and put their hands and arms up a girl's dress, all the way to her tits, from behind, then walk away.
- Various groping and grabbing is also par for course.

Basically, men face a shit ton of fear and anxiety, but women often face fairly regular sexual harassment and/or sexual assault. It might not be you, but others out there are certainly ruining it for the rest of us.

Title	I hate the fact that I am supposed to approach and do all the hard stuff while women have it on the plate
Author	ViktorCage
Upvotes	0
Comments	18
Date	November 26, 2019 11:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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