I [M21] lose girls as soon as i show a bit of vulnerability, it gets frustrating, any advice?

thegraveyardcowboy · 2019-11-27T00:48:53+00:00

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Xazax310 · 2019-11-27T02:24:04+00:00

Your text put that girl off

"i felt great being with you, i want to meet you again"

instead

"That night was amazing!"

or

"I had a great night with you last night"

Saying you want to meet her again kind of indicates neediness. Since you two haven't spent a lot of time together. Women read the emotion behind the words.

the FWB situation is probably not because your showing "feelings" it's because your not indicating neediness in that interaction, your being a cool dude who she liked having sex with, that's not going to start getting clingy.

Mr_Zarathustra · 2019-11-27T03:33:13+00:00

Bro, girls don't feel a "deep emotional investment" after a single night. Don't spill your guts like that until AT LEAST 2 months or so with her

And at that, keep it restrained

2019-11-27T02:17:28+00:00

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meanlessleader · 2019-11-27T00:37:27+00:00

This makes me think you're noche lies with introverts. Same thing happened to me. Then I hooked up with an introvert and we're hitting it off wonders. Anyways, the thing is you can't be all "hey I like you" all of a sudden. If they met you as a commanding, go alone dude they're going to stick to that until you really get to them. You could in theory make them hooked by just being as commanding in stuff you know.will get her ti be serious (i.e. take her out on dates that really look like you rewarding her in some way). Point is you need to be neutral and always make her qualify.

Insaneflirt_max · 2019-11-27T05:42:59+00:00

Your behavior is really needy and attention seeking.

It's not healthy to want a relationship that bad. It should be something that comes along because it feels good (to be with that particular person), not something you pro actively look for.

It's just plain creepy when the guy you met yesterday at the club is sending you lovey-dovey texts about how he liked to hug you.

Why is affection so intense and important to you. Why do you want it so fast and with any girl that's low-key your type. What age were you when your mom left the house to run away with the gardener.

Ask yourself those questions and find the answers.

floatingbare · 2019-11-27T12:03:34+00:00

If you’re looking for long term, there are some basics that you’re going to need to relearn:

1) the ones that will sleep with you that easily are simply not likely to be ready for the deeper relationship you say you want. Stop seeing those girls entirely.

2) If you’re having sex with random chicks, than you’re probably not ready for a deeper relationship, either. Start looking at sex as forbidden until you’ve said “I do.”

3) Consider changing the venues that you frequent; most girls who want longterm relationships aren’t going to the bars or parties. Consider finding a good church, maybe.

4) Dating isn’t always the best way to get to know someone; it puts all the stress on both of you to “perform” for the other. Get to know a bunch of people at once in a “safe” group setting, and just see what happens.

5) And finally... don’t rush it. You already know this; you just need to keep telling yourself over and over. It doesn’t matter whether you’re twenty or fifty; it still takes time to build that bond in a truly healthy way.

TheSassyTroll · 2019-11-27T12:14:58+00:00

Instead of pointing the "neediness" (I don't know you, I can't judge), I'll just highlight the fact that MAYBE she doesn't want to get involved in a long-distance relationship?

OceansZx14 · 2019-11-27T05:05:58+00:00

"Treat her like a celebrity and she'll treat you like a fan"

Title	I [M21] lose girls as soon as i show a bit of vulnerability, it gets frustrating, any advice?
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Date	November 27, 2019 12:17 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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