This may come off as more of a rant or an exercise in working through my own thoughts, but if anyone has experienced this before and successfully overcome it, i would love to hear of how you did it. Like everyone here i want to meet more women and not just any women but quality women. New York is full of extremely attractive women, but i am so damned intimidated by them. I feel like they could all do better than me. More so, it seems to me like I’m not even putting these women on a pedestal so much as other men that these women could be with. Men with better game, better social circles, more interesting lives, more money. You get the gist. A little bit about me: I grew up in New York, have a decent job making around six figures (which is fairly average for a 30 year old guy in NYC) , am average to slightly above average looking, go to the gym. I have a small group of close friends. I don’t really have an hobbies or do anything super interesting, although i am interested in lots of things. But i mostly just like to read, watch movies, and travel in my free time. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that objectively, but i cant help comparing myself to others. There are so many interesting, successful people in NYC. Actors, world famous musicians, investment bankers. People who work at Goldman Sachs, Google, Facebook. I know money isn’t everything, but i just cant help feeling inferior to these other men. Men who have gone to Ivy League schools, earn multiples of what i earn, and are objectively better looking than me. Do i just accept that life isn’t fair and that I’m never going to get the kinds of girls that Chad who works at the big name Law Firm and graduated from Princeton is getting. Perhaps the issue is that I’ve set my expectations too high. The thing is i can get dates fairly regularly on apps but as well all know, these are usually not the women we are here to learn to attract. They’re the 5s, 6s, and occasional 7s. But whenever i see a pretty girl in real life, all these objections, fears, and insecurities just flood my system. When i go on date with a woman, its very different. My mind acts different. Since the woman has agreed to go on a date with me, I assume there is attraction, and I am more confident, can have a good conversation, and usually get a second date if i want it. The problem is when i am out with friends or by myself, i just dont feel good enough, interesting enough, handsome enough, whatever to talk to her and even when i do i think its apparent that my confidence is lacking. How can i overcome this? Do i need to actually raise my SMV or is this all in my head? Im not trying to slay with models here, i just want to go on a date with a woman that I’m more than just slightly attracted to?