How to deal with girls that are dry over text?

hunterpua · 2020-02-15T18:39:01+00:00

Women generally suck at making conversation with strangers because they generally don't need it.

The biggest factor to that is that all women need to get laid is to be hot.

They don't need to be good at conversation at all. If they're hot, there are plenty of men out there who are willing to do all the talking.

Whereas a lot of women make jokes about good looking guys by saying things like, "It all went downhill when he opened his mouth." or they just call guys boring and get turned off.

The only other times they need to be good with strangers is if they work in the hospitality industry, business, and maybe some media stuff. Anything other than that really doesn't put much pressure on them to be good with strangers.

Also, men are the ones who are expected to approach. That's one big pressure for us to be good at making conversation with strangers.

So being that you're the one who is generally better at making conversation with someone that you don't know, you sort of have to teach her how to have a good conversation with you.

Control the direction of the conversation, not by talking about yourself and hoping she reciprocates but by asking her a question designed to take the two of you down the line of what you want her to tell you about herself.

It might start small, with short answers but the trick is to notice that she's actually doing what you want by answering you so you wanna reward that so that you encourage her to keep doing what you want.

If you ask her what she does for fun and she tells you that she likes to hang out with her friends and play with her dog then that would be a really bad time to tease her because then you'd just discourage her from continuing to tell you stuff.

Instead you wanna look for what you find fairly amusing in what she said and express your appreciation for that.

You can for example appreciate that she has a good social life or that she can take care of a dog which could mean she's an animal lover or she's a caring person and make a comment about any of that to make her feel good about telling you something about herself.

After that you ask another question to get her to open up further.

You can ask about what she likes doing with her friends or with her dog.

Just continue rewarding and asking, rewarding and asking.

The better she feels about telling you stuff, the more willing she'll be to do so until it gets to the point where she'll just volunteer information.

You do this right and you should see her talkativeness increase more and more.

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smoothmax · 2020-02-15T19:07:09+00:00

It's hard. It can be done but if you have oneitis the odds are bad. The techniques that tend to work will pay off when you're texting a lot of women. Some of them can sometimes be sparked and the interest might be bumped up a notch.

There are helpful guides out there. Search for "text game", "message game", "Tinder game" etc.

It goes to show IMHO how much of attraction and mating behavior is triggered by visual cues and IRL communication such as voice, eye contact, body language, smell and other very subtle cues such as breathing, heart rate and pupil dilation. Even by electrical fields according to some research.

Every guy has to learn text game but after reading and watching lots of PUA advice, I believe nobody "masters it".

Ice666White · 2020-02-16T12:35:15+00:00

You need to lead the conversations. You can see plenty of examples here.

Title	How to deal with girls that are dry over text?
Author	eckzotic
Upvotes	10
Comments	6
Date	February 15, 2020 6:12 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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