I'm not going to out anybody so I'm not going to post any examples with links or pictures or whatever, but this isn't something I see as a common concern that guys have but they keep bringing up.

"Is my X (appearance based) why girls don't like me?"

X examples: Race, Height, Ginger, Facial shape, weight etc.

And then the guy who saved to post a picture of himself where he looks like a complete slob.

Like just no sense of style.

Like crappy facial hair, unkempt appearance, just dressed like a slob, maybe his hair even looks goofy, like he could otherwise be a pretty cool guy if he got a sense of style at least looks wise, but yet his best picture that he posts on the Internet is one where he looks just like a creepy gross slob of course no girl would want to be with.

I'm not saying this to be mean, but I'm letting you guys know that a lot of times what you think the problem is is not the problem at all and, you're completely misguided and misdirected on what your excuses are that you're giving yourself as to why you are failing.

When I coach guys they routinely come to me with a set of reasons why they suck and that they're failing. (No I'm not trying to "secretly" sell my coaching, I'm using it as an example based on multiple case studies. Some guys completely miss the forest for the trees. Kind of the point of this post.)

in every case when a guy comes to me and you gives me a set of circumstances or reasons why he can't succeed, and every single case I proved to him with his own life experiences over the course of being taught by me and mentored, that every one of his preconceived notions was incorrect. And once he is having success with women, I point out and say, remember when you said this and this and this and this were the very things why you couldn't get women in your life?

None of the reasons guys who are inexperienced with going out and meeting & attracting women are usually the reasons that they're failing.

You can't know, because you can't see outside of yourself from a third-person perspective.

Also, it's impossible for a guy who doesn't have the experience of what is right and what is wrong to understand what is right and what is wrong with himself.

That was the original reason why guys USED to write so many field reports at the beginning of the seduction and dating community.

Self-discovery is a process that takes work and 90% of the time, especially when you're inexperienced, what you think the problem is, it's not even close to what the problem is.

I guess what I'm getting at is, when you simplify your problems that you think are keeping you stuck, most of the time that's not the answer at all.

It's your height, or you're a little chubby, or your race or skin color, or that you have a weird face, or that you're ugly or whatever. Every one of these problems can be overcome in one way or another. some of them are not even problems at all, and many times may even be advantageous where you think that they are actually holding you back.

Get out there and tear shit up!!