Whatsup Reddit family! A lot of people have been asking me to cover content on how to bring girls home (pulling), so here it is.

Maybe you can relate to this but I remember back in the days… I would go on so many dates and have amazing chemistry with the girl. She would be flirting back heavily. We are making out. But none of it would ever end up in the bedroom.

The first thing you have to understand is that it's deliberate practice that she ends up in your apartment.

Here is the foolproof 3 step formula to being able to pull the trigger smoothly and effortlessly anywhere, anytime.

1. Seed the pull  2. Objection handling  3. Pull the trigger

Daytime setting, nighttime, or your dates.

And a quick disclaimer: this is not about manipulating the girl into doing something that she doesn't want to do, but rather helping her break free from her concerns in a genuine way so she can do what she wants to do and have an amazing experience with you.

The absolute pre-requisite to the 3 step formula is that the girl likes you and actually wants to go home with you.

1. Seed the pull

Seeding the pull refers to when you start planting ideas of future activities with her, that you guys will engage in back at your apartment.

For example

"Do you like shisha?"

"Yeah! I love it!""Perfect"

The key to making seeds work is that you have to be assume a yes and not ask for permission.

"Do you like wine btw?"

"Yeah!""Perfect, we will go have some wine at my apartment after this coffee."

The reason you do this is because it's a much lower pressure way of going for it as opposed to going from 0-100 and just trying to suggest the idea of going home together.

You are planting ideas way before the big move. You should also be seeding the pull way before actually going for the pull. This helps to create more familiarity towards the idea of going back to your apartment and will help bait out any objections she may have so you have enough time to address them.

2. Objection Handling

From going out and meeting women very consistently for the last 3 years, I can safely tell you that anytime you try to bring a girl home on a first date, or first night, most likely she will give you one of these 3 objections.

"I'm not that kind of girl?" - Referring to slut shame

You have to understand where this is coming from.

In today's day and age, there is still an atmosphere of slut shaming. A lot of the times, even if a girl wants to fuck you, she won't because she doesn't want to be deemed a "slut" by her friends, herself, or you.

The way you deal with this objection is to let her know that sex is NOT expected. That you're perfectly okay with letting her leave your apartment without having sex.

"Look, if we go back to my place, we have some wine, we listen to some drake, and shit happens and we end up having sex, then cool! If not that's totally fine as well, you can leave. I'll get you an uber home." (Example in YouTube video)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vd6MobplE9w

This shows leadership, empathy and decisiveness and will help alleviate her biggest concern.

"What if you murder me?" - Safety objection

This is usually an auto-pilot response type of objection especially for a first date or first night, due to the media portraying this to be such a risky thing to do.

You can easily bypass this by remaining non-reactive and making a joke out of it.

"Oh, I gave up serial killing years ago so you're good."

The key is to just keep your cool and not be phased by this. If she's really really concerned, you can try showing her your passport or instagram to show that you're a normal person.

"I don't have enough time" - Time constraint

You have to determine if this is a legitimate logistical obstacle or whether you can offer a solution to her problem

One effective thing to do here is to set a false time constraint aka lower compliance threshold.

"Let's go have a drink back at my place later."

"Oh I have to be somewhere at XYZ in 2 hours."

"That's cool. We will just have one drink at I'll make sure you be on time then."

By lowering the amount of compliance you're asking for (lower compliance threshold), you're making it easier for her to comply to your requests.

As you go out more and more, you will start to encounter more objections. So start writing them down each time you get a new one, then you will begin to train yourself to maintain your cool in these situations.

3. Pull the trigger

By now you should have already done all the work there is to do.

1. You've already seeded the idea of going back to your apartment to do XYZ, so the idea of going back is already familiar.  2. And you've already alleviated any concerns that she has by dealing with her objections and offering a solution to her problem  3. Pull the trigger fully assuming the yes

There you go guys! This is exactly how I go about pulling in daygame, nightgame and on dates.

Check out the YouTube video I made with examples and infield videos. Feel free to drop a like and comment :)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vd6MobplE9w