As a woman, what can I do to gain positive attention and potentially find a good date?

StephenDawg · 2020-06-28T00:44:29+00:00

With guy, it's probably a lot easier than you realize - to be perfectly honest.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2020-06-28T10:50:42+00:00

hey you ,

i recommand reading Models form Mark Manson , it will give you the basics of seduction understandings .

Most guys here tell you to do squats , kettlebell. I agree and disagree. It`s true men are very visual , but thats just to get the attention.

Like you said , you have trouble Maintening the attraction. Physicial exercice is healthy so do it anyway , but i have a different approach of seduction , even tho i try to take very much care of my body and gym.

One of the "secret\core" of seduction is based on "investment".

the more someones invest , the more it will want to invest.

To make them invest in you , ask questions. Frequent threads talk about "disqualifying"

I strongly believe disqualifiers can force attraction , because its a polarizing process.

want to maintain attraction ? ask questions , tease them.

"are you always like this ? "

"i`d never thought you`d be like that"

"do you think you`re good at .... ?"

etc etc

also , use sarcasm , its very strong. Same way men deal with shit test , when they tell you something great or retarded , just agree and amphisize.

you can also start some sentences and never finish them, it creates desires.

"there is this thing... its almost like... you could... just a tiny bit... wooooow....."

if you visualize what you are thinking , the body language will emit its signals.

When a woman bite her lower lips , im .... ravished. most of the time they bite their lips when they mention something they like , usually food.

this was on a psych lvl.

on a physical lvl , its not only about the ass or boobs , most people forget the smile.

a beautiful and honest smile will beat even the best ass on earth ( ok maybe not ) , but trust me smiling is VERY POWERFULL, i`m paid lots of money to create them.

a great ass will get my attention , but a beautiful smile will get me hooked.

you can smile with your eyes if your teeth suck. Also with covid mask , everybody looks awesome without their lower third part of the face.

the same way you can differenciante girls from Women. Everyone notices a beautiful woman entering the room , because its about energie and confidence, not what shes wearing etc.

finally , i remember a youtube video about a coaching dude for women only , and to sum it up he explained very well that your job as woman is to make it easier for the man to read your signals.

Men struggle to read sign , so just do signs until they get it. ( but this is about creating attraction , not maintening )

i lost my self writing this , but i hope it can help you somehow. Remember everyone has its technics . Go read Models already

ultimate but kinda retarded tips. An english indian love guru had a ted talk , where he said first half of the date disagree with everything they say , then second half fully agree to what they said. because of the approval , it makes them think they earned it.

Notice how it all comes down to push pull , polarization. Dont always be nice , learn to say no , learn to tease , make them want you.

another retarded tip : i dont know about other guys , but whenever a woman brought me water when i needed it , i always felt like marying them for a split second. That`s probably my projections about my future partner , a carrying woman. watrer = life = progeniture.

Since we have 10 yo diff, maybe bring a beer to a man when he needs the most , and you will conquer them

gl minty sugar

redditonaprayer · 2020-06-28T04:24:15+00:00

I feel you. I struggled with this in my early 20’s. A couple female friends used to hang with a group of guys I’m close to. I thought that I should act more aggressive and more like an asshole to attract them and I also came off as being jealous sometimes. I cringe thinking about how I acted and in stemmed from insecurity. When I finally came into my own a couple years later I didn’t fake a persona. I finally started being myself and went with the flow. When you worry about how you should act and what you think is attractive you come off as someone trying too hard. Acting like a prick was my way of trying too hard to be aloof. All I can say is be yourself and try to have confidence in your self worth. That will make a big difference

2020-06-28T02:15:30+00:00

Waist to hips ratio.

Lost the belly fat and do a lot of squats and kettlebell swings to build a nice ass

sharonphilip230 · 2020-06-28T03:39:03+00:00

Pose yourself as a little challenge to the man!

kingr76 · 2020-06-28T02:49:20+00:00

For men, its mainly the extrinsic portion I'm afraid. Just look at the popular/followed instagram models/porn stars/. They have high following and views for a reason.

2020-06-28T06:50:08+00:00

Idk I personally hate people who play games... also being desperate wont get far cuz it shows insecurity and neediness which I guess make people take u for granted from the very beginning so u don't want that... Idk I guess the answer is be genuine with whoever ur interested in (vice versa) cuz from what I remember people like that who I enjoyed talking to or dating other its so toxic and superficial.

muse933277 · 2020-06-29T15:33:18+00:00

Try to be friendly to guys and make them feel wanted. Yeah guys like pretty girls but guys also like pretty girls who seem warm and friendly, not cold and unapproachable. That means saying hi to guys and calling them by name, showing interest in the conversation, asking them questions in return, etc... Basically practicing good social skills.

Don’t be all negative. Don’t act like a moody high strung bitch. That’s a good way to kill any sort of attraction a guy initially had for you.

STD_Tyler · 2020-06-28T02:43:54+00:00

It is not that complicated with women, lose weight, hit the gym, be beautiful. As in the "field of dreams" movie ; if you build it, they will come.

muse933277 · 2020-06-29T15:47:43+00:00

Don’t cut your hair short like a boy. Guys don’t find that attractive. Most guys prefer long hair. Also dont look or dress too masculine either; most guys like girls who look somewhat feminine.
A lot of girls think they’re too fat when they’re actually not. Some guys actually like thicker girls with a bit of fat, especially if you have a big ass. But there’s a limit to how thick you can be. Obesity is universally unattractive. Lose weight if this applies to you.
Girls should hit the gym too. Exercise will make you look a lot better.
Having a friendly and warm personality is important as well. Don’t be cold and unapproachable. Don’t act like a moody high strung bitch. You can be super hot but if you act like a moody high strung bitch to guys, they’ll lose attraction to you pretty quick.

Title	As a woman, what can I do to gain positive attention and potentially find a good date?
Author	TheMintyMinSuga
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Date	June 28, 2020 12:38 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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