How do I tease a girl without seeming like a pervert?

yurifca · 2020-07-17T16:47:21+00:00

Don't buy this bs that appearance doesn't matter, it's the main reason of attraction and that's a fact. On the other hand, you can be more attractive if you're good socially and know your way with words and speech, so my advice is to focus on being a good speaker (while grooming yourself, obviously).

One time this weird looking dude started to talk to me in a bar, I had a bad first impression of him (based on his looks and the fact that he was alone) but he was talking to me so naturally and it was a cool subject that I kinda bonded with the dude and chatted with him for half an hour. My point is, being good at talking to people is a skill and can get you really far in the dating world.

throwawaygang21 · 2020-07-17T16:27:58+00:00

I feel like the only difference between a good teasing and a teasing that gets you labeled a pervert is how good looking you are

There's some truth to this, anyone who completely denies this is lying to you. Sometimes attractive people can get away with more, we all know this. but just like most things in life there's more to it than just that.

I had a point where I experimented/practiced with teasing to see where the boundaries were. In my experience the more sexual your teasing is the higher the chance it's seen as creepy. (shocking, right?).

Teasing doesn't have to be sexual, If you tease a girl by saying something like "I bet you're a bad girl, you probably have a stripper pole in your house" you're essentially rolling the dice on whether she laughs or gets turned off, but if you do some light teasing like you would a friend that isn't really sexual, I tended to get consistently a better response. If she said something like "Oh I'm really into art" and I say "Stop lying, you're not an artist. You don't have to lie to fit in c'mon now" They'll usually get that you're joking and laugh.

But on this sub you say looks don't matter so explain me the difference

Also looks do matter, but looks aren't the only thing that matters and looks are never an excuse as to why you can't find a girlfriend or get laid unless you have some major deformity or something and even then that's still possible.

kinosavy · 2020-07-17T21:55:59+00:00

Oh no, looks do matter. A lot. It's just that social skills matter as much. And yes, you're not wrong the more attractive you are to her the more blatant you can be.

appleORorange · 2020-07-17T22:22:22+00:00

correct, what your explaining is how you will be labeled as a creep.... the more they are not interested, the more creep you are.

The creep factor once calculated, can predict how many women you will have access to, the faster you are labeled a creep and the frequency it happens is directly related to future events of the same... so if every woman does it, then you know that happens in the future, if however you find only 1 in 5, then you can plan to avoid types and lie when talking with them so they see what you want them to see.

yiggaman · 2020-07-17T22:35:26+00:00

First of all Being attractive is not about being good looking. I got some ugly ass friends who always get girls because they have attractive qualities like dick prints and good humor. Seriously though women don’t care about looks as much as you think. They just want to be intrigued. If you dress nice and you are confident you have a shot with anybody. Second of all you got to ease into the flirting. Start off with something small and if she bites you keep going. For example you don’t just say hey lemme take you back to my place and bang you. Start off with something like you know me and you would look cute together

manonpoint_com · 2020-07-18T15:45:22+00:00

You do have a point. But it is not necessarily LOOKS, it is whether or not they are INTERESTED IN YOU. If you go for tease right off the bat, then all that will matter is looks, because you haven't demonstrated anything of value other than your appearance--you just approached!

Demonstrate value first, get her intrigued first, attracted ideally, then you tease to escalate some.

Of course, this is how I approach things. I am not in the hardcore tease-push-pull-neg camp--I find DHV is way more effective (i.e. make yourself appear more valuable as opposed to try to mess with her self-image/worth)

Title	How do I tease a girl without seeming like a pervert?
Author	UberChadMamadu
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	July 17, 2020 3:31 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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