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iaskquestions011 · 2020-08-10T17:04:37+00:00

Push pull just means teasing and then being nice. Should you tease your gf but also sometimes be nice? Yes.

People invest in the convo if you stfu. No offense ♥️. Watch that: https://youtu.be/edfoDS4omQs

Not much else to say about body language, going to the gym should fix all your bad posture habits also.

Deep convos come whenever the other person needs more comfort. Can happen at any stage.

Girls lose interest when you take value. Attraction isn't a choice, you either attract a women or repel her.

Yes it's a good opener when you wanna go direct.

Saying hi how are you is never weird.

You act non needy when you don't try to take anything from people and you instead just try to give them what they want while staying true to yourself.

Tbh, acting normal in front of a women is very often good enough to turn her on.

Nervousness goes away with tons of practice.

Writing from my phone so sorry for bad format.

Therocksays2020 · 2020-08-10T16:31:16+00:00

Nervousness goes away with familiarity. Practice. You probably get nervous around girls because you don’t spend enough time being around them. Once you do that I imagine it will become second nature.

chzyy · 2020-08-10T16:38:02+00:00

You can keep a female in a conversation by keeping it unpredictable. Don’t say the regular shit that every female probably hears from 95% of people. A tip is to throw some covertly sexual things in the conversation.

NCreature · 2020-08-10T17:37:14+00:00

Push pull- I assume push pull works from field reports and posts, but my question is should push pull still be used if I manage to somehow have a long term relationship?

This used to be known as 'fractionation' in the Ross Jeffries days. The point of it is to build tension and intrigue. It sort of creates this game of guessing what's next rather than just sort of vomiting out how you feel in the moment which kills everything. When things are mildly unpredictable there's a kind of excitement that goes along with it. The thing to remember is that push/pull is a technique and a lot of times if you're not doing it it's being done to you, even in long term relationships. If you've ever had a gf or someone just kind of go cold on you for a while, that's a form of fractionation. The issue is that this technique is usually employed to get a desired result out of someone by basically toying with their interest level so you should be careful about being so overly manipulative. The reason PUAs teach this is because most guys don't know how to do either well. They don't push hard enough for what they want and they never pull because they're scared of losing the girl.

A lot of posts I’ve read involve the term “investing”. How do I get people to invest in a conversation and me?

Everyone is asking the question on some level "what's in it for me?" If you can answer that question for them then you can create investment. The problem with a lot of guys is they're not really offering anything, or they're not aware of what the other person is looking for, or even looking at. It's like having a product you don't know how to market. It's going to be tough to sell. People invest in others when they feel like they have something to gain from the interaction. So it falls on you to present yourself in such a way that people are investing in you for the reasons you want them to invest in you. A lot of guys fall in the trap of thinking "oh I need to get rich," and yes money will create girls wanting to invest at least time in you, because again they could potentially stand to get something out of that, but is that the thing you want them to want about you? A lot of women who are always being sexually provocative always complain guys only want them for their bodies, just like rich guys complain women only want them for their money, but whatever you put first will be first. So you need to be an active participant in the process and present yourself in such a way to where potential lovers look at you they are seeing in you things that they find valuable and that you are prepared to share with them.

Eye contact, straight posture, and smiling are body language tips I see most posts. What else about body language should I keep in mind?

These are all proxies for confidence. A person who avoids eye contact, is hunched over and doesn't smile usually is not someone who has a lot of people around. You just want to try to stand up straight and be expansive because you'll actually feel better physiologically. People are always looking for cues as to how to treat others in an interaction. If you seem open and approachable, then you'll get that back. If you're like a scared puppy cowering in the corner with your head down, then people will respond in kind.

Should deep conversations with someone else come later in the relationship or when you first meet them?

I don't think there's any rule here. Just that when you're meeting someone you just want to avoid anything that might come off as confrontational. Generally people say avoid religion and politics because, especially today, those issues can set people off, but that's contextual. For me personally, I'd try to get past the meaningless small talk sooner than later, maybe on the second or third date, because you can't really create connection without depth and at some point you have to allow who you really are to come through.

Why and how do girls lose interest? Non neediness is one way to keep interest, but what are some others?

Usually the guy stops being emotionally interesting. Or he fails to make a move or take his shot at the appropriate time. Non-action is a huge killer. Women want to feel like they're getting a good deal with you, and if you do something that communicates otherwise (or that you might be a mistake) that can kill things. That's why people say don't be so predictable and the best way to do this is having the confidence and courage to walk away from a situation or person you don't like. You should be qualifying her to see if she's an appropriate addition to your world, not just trying to get in her's. If all you're doing is trying to be in her orbit there's nothing for her to really gain. You're not expanding her possibilities. But if you have strong boundaries and things you want out of a relationship and things you absolutely will not stand for, now you're not just doing work to get her, but making it clear that its a two-way street which demands respect. If you just bend over backwards for her in every way, especially if she hasn't done anything to deserve it other than being cute, that just shows you as desperate and not respectable, and no one wants to be around someone like that unless they're a manipulative narcissist (and avoid people like that).

Is “hi I saw you and thought you looked very interesting and I want to get to know you better” really a good opener? I see many field reports have this as they’re opening line.

You can basically open with anything, the questions are 'how do you follow it up?' and what's your vibe. If you're seem confident and friendly and genuinely interested you'll have a little better luck than if it's just a line or a tactic which will read as creepy and manipulative. Remember cold approach isn't about the opener its about being able to keep the conversation going and move it in a desired direction. That's the skill. Just having an opener is a waste of time. That's like a building with a cool facade but nothing inside. You can basically say anything so long as it is genuine and not creepy or confrontational (I would avoid anything that would confuse you for being a salesman though because a lot of cold approach guys are initially thought to be selling something and people have a natural aversion to that). This is an area where reps and experience are your friend. The more you do the better you get because most interactions will be lukewarm, but you learn very quickly how people respond to you.

How do you start a conversation with a girl you already know? I just think walking up and just saying hi would be weird.

Why would this be weird? I mean come on, man, basic social skills here. I assume you're not so socially inept as to not be able to chat up your friends. How do you start a conversation with your guy friends? Or your family? Or anyone you're already familiar with? If you already know the person there shouldn't be any awkwardness. A simple "hey" usually does the trick. With people I really know I just sort of say whatever I wanted to say after the "hey" and forego the salutation altogether. It's unnecessary.

Title	Questions
Author	RedAsh521
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Date	August 10, 2020 2:57 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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