Lacking social skills

red-tinted · 2015-06-14T15:19:22+00:00

This recent post on the main sub is a good place to start. Also, check out Real Social Dynamics on YouTube.

Making observations about you're surroundings is always a good way to initiate conversation. Observations about the person are even better, be it a sports jersey they're wearing ('hey so you're a 'X' fan? Did you catch the game? - NOTE: if you don't have an interest in sport then don't pursue this line of questioning) or if it's a girl, some weird ass jewellery she's wearing or a tattoo (that's an interesting tattoo, why did you get it?). And look, no one is going to rack up a 100% record in successful approaches to people. You're going to meet people who are completely frigid in social situations (it's a problem that's only growing) but also you're to meet people who are very talkative and responsive as well. React to both accordingly, ditch the frigids and continue the conversation with the people who want to speak.

Super-Saiyajin · 2015-06-14T17:19:18+00:00

Get some cool and popular hobbies.

Cars, Fishing, Archery, Hunting, Bodybuilding, Wakeboarding, ETC.

The more hobbies you have, the more likely you will have something to talk to about with someone!

vfree · 2015-06-14T17:21:37+00:00

Go inward and know yourself better. There's a part or parts of yourself you don't like / you're disconnected from. This prevents you from connecting with other people.

lionofthejungle · 2015-06-14T18:49:37+00:00

You almost have to be like a TV interviewer. Get them to talk about themselves more than you talk about yourself. This achieves two things:

It alleviates your need to talk so much (great for the lazy).
When a person is given the opportunity to talk about him/herself, this subconsciously causes that person to associate you with a good feeling - everyone likes to talk about their own life. (Note: this is really effective with seducing women).

You just need to smile, throw in a few light hearted jokes here and there, nod at the right moments, say things like "good for you", "nice", "really?", "yeah?"...you get the drift. These are simple phrases you can use to glue the conversation together and let's you lead the direction of the conversation.

Title	Lacking social skills
Author	Robo_Mao
Upvotes	11
Comments	4
Date	June 14, 2015 2:48 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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