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How important is it to get experience talking to random girls in public ?

bayfarm · 2020-09-01T11:51:16+00:00

I don't know why but I rarely ever think about hitting on girls in public. Probably because I'm focused on something else ,a little shy, and...

bayfarm

September 1, 2020

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Title	How important is it to get experience talking to random girls in public ?
Author	bayfarm
Upvotes	4
Comments	6
Date	September 1, 2020 11:51 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ikitla/how_important_is_it_to_get_experience_talking_to/
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[–]kettlebell_workout 4 points5 points6 points 5 years ago* (5 children) | Copy Link

[–]the-fred 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

[–]kettlebell_workout 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I don't know actually. In theory, you should be able to find a gf during day game, but in practice is not how it works.

99% of people who start gaming have deep underlying psychological problems. Finding that person from cold approach does not fix that. And from my experience this is what happens:

Noobie finds a gf. But he does not have a strong inner game, so he starts acting like beta, and she leaves him soon after. So he goes back to the game.
Noobie tries, and tries and fails and just gives up. He says the game is shit and not working and goes back to his old ways.
The whole purpose of the game is to have sex as soon as possible. Any girl who is willing to have sex sober or not after 4 hours of meeting a stranger is not looking for a bf and You don't want that kind of gf in a first place.
A woman who is looking for a relationship, just feels in their gut that all this is fake. You are fake, no matter how good you are. Unless you have a strong inner game, you can't escape that. And to build inner game takes years and years.

[–]the-fred 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link

Just some thoughts on that

What do you think the deep psychological problems are? Low self esteem, needing validation from outside which they are looking to feed/compensate? Or you mean just in general well adjusted people don't get into it because they have some level of romantic success which never leads them down that road?
You mean 4 hours accumulative, like after a first date or something? I mean you could cold approach and not be fake, invite her on a couple dates and have sex with her after a month if that's what one is after. But yeah, pickup as such, even if it's geard towards longer term goals, is about fast sex, because it is said to make the relationship dynamic more favorable towards you as a male. (Your also possibly screening out high quality girls who won't be fast tracked to the bedroom. I guess part of the reason is also the insecurity that she is not with you because she genuinely desires you but for societal, social and lifestyle reasons.)
Agreed, although what does her looking for a relationship have anything to do with it? Depends on how perceptive and experienced she is and how congruent you are, relationship or not doesn't come into it really imho. (If you want to just fuck her and are incongruent she will also likely feel it and not fuck you. It's just that it's easier to fake without tripping up if you have sex with her sooner)

[–]kettlebell_workout 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link

For every person is different. Most common are social anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, body insecurities (I have a small dick, I have a big nose), eating disorders, lack of social and communication skills and on and on.
I meant Single Day Lay in 4-7 hours window. But even it is one or two days. You can't really know that person enough. And when your focus only to get her into the bed you don't really get to know her cause "know her" is not the goal "sex is".
I am talking more about your own thoughts. Unless you are totally delusional and really believe that you just became a sex god overnight using pickup, then may not have this problem. But smarter guys, do have inner conflicts that you are just pretending, you are manipulating, it is not REAL you and so on. Which is actually, true to some degree, at least in the beginning. It takes time for all those thoughts to settle down in your mind. 90% of guys won't even choose a pickup for this exact reason. Cause they don't believe in it.

[–]the-fred 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link