So, when I get into the rare argument with my gf, I stay calm and use rational responses and reason. She counters that with the "everything i've done is wrong in this whole relationship, you never cared about us." Typical irrational responses and trying to avoid the direct questions I'm asking her.

I guess my question is, what is my response to that move? She knows she isn't "winning" any arguement because I refuse to get emotional and illogical. So she pulls that move. Talking to my buddy at work, his wife does it literally everytime they fight. How to get around it and make them use reason?