Girl coming over, wtf im supposed to do

2020-09-30T22:09:59+00:00

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norwegiandoggo · 2020-09-30T20:13:07+00:00

Practice putting on condoms before she comes. It's not important what you do. Talk, Netflix, have a tea, whatever.. it doesn't matter.. the point is to get comfortable with each other and get to know each other. Then from there ecalate physically if she's responsive and eager. If you're super nervous just tell her you're a virgin and you're nervous. That should take some pressure off.

sacredalonya · 2020-09-30T20:18:21+00:00

Pay attention to your senses and don't spend time over thinking in your head. Your heart is going to be racing, but know that so is hers, so just pay attention to her, pay attention to feeling, and do what feels fun and good. When it comes to it, just enjoy the sensation, again, don't overthink, just pay attention to the way it feels. If your worried about not lasting, firstly that's okay. You've probably heard the typical "think about baseball", or something else to distract you so that you don't bust, but instead just really concentrate on what is happening and how it feels, that concentration is what will keep you there, and that way you're actually present and enjoying the experience. Spend a couple minutes taking big deep breaths before you meet her, you'd be surprised how much that will settle you. Peace.

aj653 · 2020-09-30T20:05:57+00:00

I say you put netflix on and just relax. She might be a little nervous too so chat a bit to break the ice. Then if it happens, it happens. Make it a no-pressure kind of thing

CalDude22 · 2020-09-30T20:11:51+00:00

Ur certain she’s not a catfish?

mike10177777 · 2020-09-30T20:16:55+00:00

And remember if she stares at you eye to eye for no reason get close and try to go for a kiss but slowly

zaryaguy · 2020-09-30T21:02:59+00:00

Be physical from the very beginning, say "wow you have such small hands!" And put ur hands together, of anything. If you wait a long time and make a move out of nowhere where she doesnt expect it, it might freak her out a little.

heyjude84 · 2020-09-30T21:06:35+00:00

I agree with the other person. Practice putting on some condoms. Its counter intuitive, you want to put it on the other way the first time you do it lol also it helps to normally go some other place first so when you do come to your home (or thiers) thats an indicator that both are already comfortable and you can escalate things. Or save an area of your house for "the tour" where you end with it being in your bedroom. If you feel this is too big a step and for some reason the living room is where it goes down then just be mindful of unexpected guests or if you have to lock the door (which can be creepy if you do that in front of her ). Above all else just dont be too hard on yourself. It doesnt matter that shes hot. It really doesnt. Just make sure shes std free and then have fun. Whatever happens, happens. Dont put pressure on yourself, free yourself of that burden. Its new territory and it doesnt matter if you think you are a good or bad kisser, or good or bad at sex yet. When you get older its about being present in a moment and appreciating people for other things, that gives you more attraction than physical looks. Ive fucked hot woman where the sex was bad and traditionally non attractive bigger ladies where the sex was awesome. Its about the rest of the stuff where you will figure it out over time. Just be open to new experiences and have fun. All you gotta do is show up and whatever happens happens. Good luck friend. You can be nervous or excited. Choose excited. Just lets you know you're alive !

Title	Girl coming over, wtf im supposed to do
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Date	September 30, 2020 7:33 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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