How do I stop falling in love quickly?

greatdateguy · 2020-10-07T03:53:05+00:00

Sounds like there are two concerns here.

You feel you're falling in love too quickly and you want to slow that down
You're missing obvious signs.

What signs specifically do you want to stop missing?

For part 1... you're fighting against biology so first recognize that this is going to happen again and there's not much you can do about it - though it may change with time.

There's also nothing wrong with it. And the more you make it into something you need to fix because it's "bad" the more suffering you get.

If it feels like you're obsessing about a gal, always waiting for her texts, constantly checking your phone, you can try a few different approaches.

Just be busier, in general. Have a vibrant life outside of dating. The more interesting your personal life, the less you'll *need* her (does that make sense?)
Talk to more than 1 gal at the same time. If you're going to be sleeping with em, make sure they know that you're not exclusive, otherwise this becomes a scumbag move. I'm personally much less reactive, jealous, and outcome dependant when I'm dating multiple women - so hopefully the same applies for you.

RoseTinted64 · 2020-10-09T22:58:28+00:00

I could not agree more with "great date guy". In today's society it is frowned upon when men are talking to multiple women but this is absolutely ok to do. You probably already know but it is called "Plate Theory". Spinning multiple plates at once, in case one falls of and breaks, no big deal. This is absolutely the way to go and something I wish I would have known when I was younger. Women are masters at this, they do it all the time although they do not want to admit that they do.They are almost never "fully' single, take that into account with he fact that their DM's are absolutely blowing up day after day. Men need to spin plates.

If you are a guy who only talks to one women at a time, especially if you find her very physically attractive, you will fall for her every time. Any dating coach or YouTube influencer who promises you a way out of this mindset is an absolute liar and they are attempting to provide click bait.

PSADNAWR · 2020-10-06T21:23:30+00:00

It’s impossible to see the world from someone else’s perspective so be aware of the assumptions you make about what they’re thinking and how they’re feeling. Try to help them make more accurate assumptions about you to see if you want to spend more time with them.

letsridetoglory · 2020-10-07T14:33:40+00:00

Bro i think this is the hardest thing to do, that being said I think having strong will power helps but like i said this happens to most men

Shadow__Account · 2021-03-05T20:14:36+00:00

I think we might fall in love when girls have characteristics that we secretly desire to have ourselves and therefore we admire them, so if my theory is correct the answer would be to find out what you like so much about these women and work on yourself and develop these characteristics so you don't need anyone else to have or experience them.

Title	How do I stop falling in love quickly?
Author	G0DMODE101
Upvotes	18
Comments	8
Date	October 6, 2020 6:15 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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