Men's anger toward "Modern Women" is severely misplaced.

In light of the growing 4b movement and the online gender war, I want to get this off my chest because I truly believe that men's anger towards women is misplaced because they should actually be angry at other men.
Notably, since the Me Too movement there's been a rise of red pill, incel manosphere content that men have been creating and indulging in to share their gripes with "Modern women" which include but are not limited to:

1) Women have standards that are too high. They want men they don't "qualify for'' (and by "qualify", let's be real. It's largely referring to physical attractiveness, because truth be told that is what men care the most about). Oh, and being young of course.

2) Women are too masculine because they're too independent,  strong, and can make their own living.

Men act as if women's desire to pursue careers, focus on themselves, and find their own purpose in life outside of men and motherhood is an atrocity against humanity and a rejection.

Here's the thing. Women are simply taking the steps to try to survive in a world that men created. Why are men complaining that women are too picky? Women SHOULD be picky. After all we have more to lose if we pick wrong (i.e. pregnancy, being abandoned, more vulnerable, social stigma of being a single mother, etc). Women are not the ones that created a society in which men's value is based on power and wealth and women's value is based on physical appearance and male sexual appeal. We didn't create a society where it's considered "weak" for men to be encouraged to communicate and express their emotions in a healthy way. Men did that. So if men are failing in a system that other MEN created, why are they mad at women for simply trying to be self-preservationists and protect themselves the best they can in a world that for centuries has been hostile and cruel to women.

If anything, men should be mad at other men who are responsible for this patriarchal society. But no, they blame women because it's easier and too scary to stand up to other men or to look inward and do inner work.
Men are angrier, lonelier and more depressed in these past years, but they seem to think that it's up to women to fix this problem by engaging in relationships with men where women sacrifice themselves to cater to them while receiving very little to nothing in return. Generally, unlike women, men do not often establish deep connections with others outside of their romantic partners or perhaps immediate family. But a huge part of that is because men generally have no interest in friendships with women because they only see them as sexual objects or romantic partner potential. And another part is men don't know how to communicate with one another on a deeper level and quite frankly many are simply not interested in learning because they think that it's women's jobs to cater to their emotional needs.

Women have had to adapt to more masculine roles by leaving their homes and going to work while STILL being responsible for the majority of childcare, household responsibilities and emotional labor. All of which, mind you usually go thankless, unappreciated and unrecognized because that is what people "expect" of women to do. On the other hand, men refuse to adapt to this new world where both men and women have to work to survive but men still expect women to do most of the work when it's time to go home while also putting up 50% of the check. Women finally realizing that this is a pretty shitty deal is long overdue because they're finally seeing that men are not pulling their weight.

Women waking up and realizing that we have been taken for granted for years and sacrificing ourselves for a society that has never given a shit about us beyond how youthful and beautiful we are is not a rejection of men. Women realizing their value and choosing themselves is not hating men. 
Men need to realize that their problems are not because of "Modern Women '' and women being too picky, or shallow.

It's actually due to the patriarchal society that other men built and the internal problems men have that they refuse to fix and instead will externalize it on other people. That's why instead of focusing on themselves and self-improvement, they would rather flock to a male podcaster who will tell them that all their problems are because of women. Until men realize that they themselves need to be the ones to fix their problems and to stop blaming women for everything, women will only continue to divest from them and their anger will only get worse.