Learning to be a Girl

CozyPetals · 2024-05-02T02:48:31+00:00

The acne on your back could possibly be due to a couple of reasons: 1) you are washing your body before your hair, meaning that products like hair masks/conditioner etc are left on your skin or 2) the frequency that you wash fabrics that come in contact with your skin such as towels or bedsheets, isn’t enough to remove acne-causing bacteria. (It’s actually very common, and something that I’ve experienced myself, so nothing to be ashamed of!)

For manicures, they are not supposed to be painful if done properly. I get gel nails done once or twice a month as part of my maintenance routine, and for cuticle treatments, buffering the nail or removing old gel etc, sometimes the salon girls can be too heavy-handed, but if I tell them politely that it hurts, they should be more mindful of their pace. It should not be excruciating, and if it is, try a new salon.

Multiple-step skincare routines are popular on social media at the moment, but simple is best, rather than layering things and over complicating it without the proper knowledge. All you need is a cleanser, moisturizer and good SPF. Even if it’s cloudy, skin damage can still happen, so I wear SPF every day. I’m also a fan of double-cleansing on days that I wear makeup. I use an oil cleanser to remove the bulk of my makeup, then use my regular cleanser after to make sure my skin is fully clear and refreshed.

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Title: Learning to be a Girl

Author Top-Break6703

Full text: I'm a bit embarrassed about this which is why I'm posting here instead of other parts of reddit. But I'm a grown woman and I don't know these basic girl things. My family of origin was pretty toxic all around, and my mom tried to force her version of femininity and beauty on me. Her version of "caring for yourself" was all about looking "perfect" 24/7. I could keep explaining, but basically my mom had turned me off from caring about things like this. Now that I'm in my 30's, I want to learn to nurture myself and do more than the bare minimum self care (ok, sometimes that's hard for me too).

I also recently got some skincare product samples and am feeling a bit inspired. I've never really done much for my skin besides take baths and drink water, and my skin on my face is usually clear. I just wash my face with water unless it feels grimy or dirty, then I'll use a small amount of soap. It looks tired, but getting a better sleep routine should help. I have acne on my upper back almost constantly though. My skin can be dry in spots like my hands and oily in others (my skin, especially around the hairline and shoulders). I have been going through it mental health wise and not showering much so the back acne's been worse. I have started wearing small amounts of makeup some days, just lip gloss and eyeliner, and that's all I want to do.

My current plan:

I started using this after showers on my body but not my face. I could use it on my face too, I just haven't thought of it until right now lol. I like it a lot, but our Costco hasn't ever gotten it back in stock. I'd rather switch to something that I can get locally that isn't too expensive. We have a few natural food stores here that carry this lotion, which I sampled and liked.
I have samples of the products below, but I don't know what they are or how to use them. Can any of you ladies help?
I'd like a routine that's simple and doesn't involve a lot of products. My goal with this is to have something that feels nourishing and relaxing for me, not to stress myself out to look good for others.
Products with alcohol dry out my skin, even "moisturizing" ones.

Any tips or advice? Am I overthinking it and should just focus on hygiene, diet, and sleep?

I also have two quick questions. One, what's a manicure like? Is it painful? The only time I had one is when my mom (who's a cosmetologist) would force me to have them for homecoming/prom in high school. She'd push the cuticules on my nails and it would HURT. Is that normal for a manicure? I like painting my nails, and I always here people talk about manicures like they're enjoyable but from my experiences that's confusing to me.

Two, how do you put outfits together? I have clothes that would look good layered with other things, but I have a hard time picking them out. I'm developing a witchy/goth/punk style if that helps.

Thank you all! I'm nervous putting this out there. I'm kinda insecure about my appearance and talking about these things triggers that. But I want to develop my self-confidence and style and take care of my body like I love myself. So please be gentle.

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GreeneyedPolly · 2024-05-02T09:37:33+00:00

Hi! What a sweet self care journey you’re undertaking!

I’m not US-based so I won’t give any product recommendations. On a general note, I like having specific cleaner products for my different areas, like face and hands and body and eyes. I appreciate the scents they bring to my routine.

Out of curiosity, would you mind writing a little more about why you’re going the goth style route? I understand feeling safe in black but to me, that style implies layering and combinations that I find rather complicated 😅 I feel much more confident in a simple dress and hoodie, that I can dress up with sandals or jewelry on the days I feel like it.

Oh yeah and also, painful manicures are definitely a your mom thing. Sorry about that.

EstablishmentFunny42 · 2024-05-03T08:15:35+00:00

For my dry skin (face) i put on regular nivea everytime after washing (i found the Cerave foaming cleanser for dry skin to suit me, you can get it at pharmacy) and before bed I put on a little bit of vaseline around my nose, lips, eyebrows where my skin is dry. Put your hair in a lose ponytail or sleeping cap, so it doesn’t get greasy.

TeachingReady1447 · 2024-05-19T01:48:52+00:00

I use almond oil on my skin after I shower, and even wear it under makeup and it has made my skin look amazing! All bumps are gone, and any acne I now get is usually caused by my period. It's also a great base for foundation (I recommend all natural make up).

Title	Learning to be a Girl
Author	Top-Break6703
Upvotes	20
Comments	13
Date	May 2, 2024 2:18 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/RedPillWomen
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