Need advice. So I am less than a year out from my filing date and "technically" not yet divorced, still waiting for the final decree. No kids, no financial drama. All things considered my losses are emotional and friendship based (losing her and long-time friends who wanted to maintain both relationships, which can't work for me).

While following a lot of the advice on here (therapy, working out, rebuilding my social circle) I did hook up with a girl. I know, I was supposed to wait. Now, it's a thing. I have been upfront about my situation, that I do not want a relationship, that I am not ready for any emotional ties and don't know if I will ever be and that I will NEVER get married again. She says she understands but that she likes me.

I can't lie, the sex is amazing but I know that this isn't someone I would change my mind for. There are too many things that don't fit what I would want if I was looking for a relationship. But, I also can't lie that it's nice to have someone who WANTS to spend time with me, offers up ideas of things to do and ALWAYS wants to fuck me.

My questions are these, am I being an asshole keeping this thing going, knowing she's not what I want, if I wanted something? I keep trying to kind of get her to move on, but she is determined to keep this going. Am I just not ending this cause I don't want to hurt somebody like my STBX hurt me? Am I just thinking with my dick?

Another caveat to this is she is not as attractive as my STBX and I am wondering if I am just being a shallow ass hat in that regard?

Feel free to unload on me brothers. I need some tough guidance. WWYD? My best friend has told me it isn't my responsibility to protect her feelings since I have been upfront about what I do not want, but I feel conflicted with that thought.

TIA.