What is a High Value Man?

What is an Alpha Male? What is a high value man? What should a man do? These or some variations are constantly asked on these forums. All valid questions but they miss the point. Men who know the answers to these questions learned but not by asking. Another common question is: what is the meaning of life? A high value man does many things and has various qualities. In the west to be high value includes making money, going to the gym, studying, mastering your craft, practicing game etc. But it is not enough to just have the physical metrics of success without the mindset. You can be successful outwardly but still have a bluepill mindset. The most important aspect of a high value man is, he must prioritize action.

And I think we all know that to an extent. But what actions? What qualities personify a high value man? I could talk about being the leader of the pack, being an Alpha wolf or lion, but that is dated; So for the sake of novelty, I will talk about the redpill qualities you can learn from rabbits.

Modern men can learn a lot from Rabbits. Rabbits have many good qualities, Rabbits are pretty chill, they mind their own business and they are not afraid of their own sexuality, I am talking to you nice guys. Rabbits can also be brutal and have been known to dwell in caves surrounded by bones. But the #1 quality rabbits have over other animals frequently mentioned in redpill discussions is: Silence. Knowing when to shut the fuck up (STFU) is a very valuable skill. So, what does STFU have to do with being a high value man? Simply put its fight club. The first rule of Fight Club is: You do not talk about fight club. The Second rule is: You do not talk about fight club. Over the years men have had different ideas over what this means. I believe it means something like this: Fight Club is not something you talk about; it is something you do.

“Waste no more time arguing about what a good man should be. Be one.” Marcus Aurelius’

A Vow of Silence

Stoicism can be summed up in the serenity prayer.

God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.

Recognize and take action. Among the observations the stoics made on human nature, was the importance of shutting up. Something happens when people speak, especially about the things they are going to do. While I cannot explain all the science behind it, speaking about your future plans kills your stride. You are less likely to do the thing you talk about doing; New year’s resolutions anyone? So, noticing this pattern some of the stoics came up with the practice of taking vows of silence. These vows were taken for a number of reasons, but the point was that the man vowed not to speak until he had accomplished whatever goal he set for himself. The movie Acts of Vengeance illustrates this point well. In the movie the main character’s family is murdered, he vows to himself not to speak until he has captured his family’s killer. And while the story is an extreme example there are lessons that can be learned. I am not suggesting that you take a vow of silence but that there are benefits to guarding your words.

A fool uttereth all his mind: but a wise man keepeth it in till afterwards. Proverbs 29:11

I will by no means create an exhaustive list, but for the purposes of business and game, keeping silence prevents people from reading you. You become more mysterious. In the absence of explicit words from you, people will start imagining all sorts of things about you. See the post “Why Women Love Mysterious Men.” In business you do not tell your competitors, about your plans less they should sabotage you. Try telling your boss that you are putting in applications for other jobs, see how that goes. It is a good practice to keep your options open, and keep some irons in the fire, talking about it is foolish. Tell your wife or girlfriend about all your red pill terminology and lessons, I am sure she will be thrilled!... Not. This is shooting yourself in the foot, remember women want you to “just get it.” If you talk about literature and videos on how you are learning to man up, your woman, family and friends will doubt your authenticity.

Why you do not shut up

Simply put, its validation. Go about your mission whatever that is at the moment, and don’t talk about it. If you are fat and started losing weight, don’t tell your girlfriend; keep pumping iron bro, and make those sweat puddles bigger! Look at you, you took out the trash, now go tell your wife (read mommy) so she can tell you what a big boy you are! I am not going to go too much into mental point of origin, but shutting up, helps you become more attractive. Not seeking approval and validation is attractive, and not unattractive. If you can learn to be silent, and not seek approval, you will do well but remember silence is a means to an end. What that end is, well that’s for you to decide. Whatever goal you seek must be geared to action. If you do not take action, your mind will stagnate and begin pointless pondering.

What is the meaning of life?

Is a pointless question. It is a question asked by those that are not living. Remember, to be men of action. If you are taking action and moving forward, you won’t have time to ask yourself such questions. Remember the chimps in captivity! Chimps in captivity masturbate, chimps in the wild do not. Chimps in their natural habitat are busy hunting, mating, jockeying for status, and living; Chimps do not have time to engage in pointless activities. I am not saying there is no time for introspection and thinking, quite the opposite. But don’t let overthinking paralyze you! Think, and then do. A decent plant diligently carried out is better than a perfect plan applies sporadically.

The question what is the meaning of life is very limited, it’s as if there was one thing you were born for, this is false. You were born to do many things. Victor Frankel put it this way, instead of asking what is the meaning of life, as if life owes you something; ask what does life want of me? And what life wants from you is dependent upon that moment in time. When you are making love to your woman, your purpose in life is to be present and enjoy! When you are in war, your purpose is to kill your enemy. When you are working, work; when you are playing play. You will do many different things in life depending on your interest and propensities. There is no one thing. So do not engage in overthinking. What does life want from you at this moment? It is that simple. To overthink is, to not live. You must be present and answer the question in the now.

Are you a monkey! A Monkey in Captivity?!

Some of you may be monkeys! Why? Because of the inability to quiet yourself. Because of the inability to plan for the future. Because of instant gratification. And because you engage in endless masturbation. Not only physically as in choking the chicken. But also, mentally.

“Self-improvement is masturbation”-Tyler Durden.

Reading and searching for information without application is mental masturbation. Learning without action is pointless. Without struggle, without purpose we devolve into a Bonobo masturbation society! As men we are what we do. You don’t need permission to do what you need to. You don’t need to know the purpose of your life to start living. The ironic thing is that as you start living a lot of questions will answer themselves. A high value man is many things, and does many more things. Don’t talk about fight club. The point of the stoics, and the serenity prayer is not introspection (read masturbation) but “the courage to change the things I can.”

“I hate every ape I see, From chimpan-a to chimpan-z,

No, you'll never make a monkey out of me.” The song Dr Zaius

Don’t be a mindless ape.

Emphatically

The Most Alpha of Bunnies