What's wrong with me, why does this keep happening?

FarmerDad1976 · 2024-07-17T10:30:43+00:00

"IDK if [harder dating] comes with getting older"... Do these women really, genuinely, not understand? Have they swallowed the feminist myths so completely, I wonder?

thisisnotyourconcern · 2024-07-17T11:11:14+00:00

The link doesn't take you to the screenshot?

Ben-iND · 2024-07-17T10:36:46+00:00

Ma'am you try date men way outside your price range.

Joaquino7997 · 2024-07-17T10:30:33+00:00

If she feels like something is wrong with her, chances are she's flying all sorts of red flags.

Who's willing to bet someone has told her about this already, but she chose to NOT acknowledge it?

dundundunnumber1 · 2024-07-17T11:12:51+00:00

is the post deleted at forums.red? , cant seem to access it

StickySmokedRibs · 2024-07-17T10:43:52+00:00

She kinda gets it. She isn’t good enough for the men she’s aiming for. Let’s be clear this lady is single by choice. There are many average men who’d take her but she deserves better than average!

lurkerhasarisen · 2024-07-17T13:22:18+00:00

Honestly… women should read high quality RP content for the knowledge. If this chick spent even a little time researching what guys like us say, she would know what her problem is and how to fix it. Of course if one of us answered her question she and the rest of the coven would start tossing around meaningless words like “incel” and “misogyny” so they could avoid the uncomfortable truths of their self-made predicaments.

You know who doesn’t have the sorts of problems this woman has?

My wife, and women like her. She/they live comfortable lives of dignity, stability, and security, rather than being interchangeable and disposable sexual commodities passed around among “emotionally unavailable” men. So why do my wife and women like her have what she wants? Here’s why…

They didn’t spend their best years spreading their legs for BadBois (tm). They used that time - when they had the most leverage they would ever have - to secure the exclusive commitment of a Good Man.

I was not one those “top 20%” men that all the girls chase. I was much better, but the characteristics I possessed to be a great husband weren’t apparent to girls who only care about superficial things. Character is more important than height, for example. Having the intelligence to solve problems is more important than having the strength to bench press 300 pounds. Maturity is more important than swagger. Perseverance in the face of adversity is more important than knowing where to get “good” dope. Scoring four touchdowns in the state high school championship game for Polk High doesn’t matter at all.

A lot of those guys peak in high school, and because so many women never mentally mature past their “hot girl summer” mindset, they spend their prime husband hunting years chasing the same types of men they chased when they were younger. The difference is that they eventually reach the epiphany phase when they age out of the carousel and expect one of those same men to wife them up. By why would they? Chads and Tyrones can keep playing the game until their 30s and even 40s if they want… even longer if they have a lot of money. If such a man decides to hop off the ride and start a family, he’s going to choose a younger woman rather than some wrinkly overgrown woman-child he’s known all his life who’s been naked with every man he knows.

But even then, this woman could get a husband who would treat her well if she went for men with similar MMV. But she doesn’t know how low her MMV is. She thinks that she should be able to get commitment from men based on the SMV she had during her sexual prime, and (mistakenly) believes that the men in her league are so far beneath her that they barely register as human… much less as potential husbands.

We talk about women who are “49’ers”… fours who think they’re nines. Those are women who think that they are much more attractive than they are (usually because men will have sex with women who are less attractive than they are if no better options are available at the moment). But the real break is between women who have very low MMV who judge themselves by their self-perceived SMV. This woman obviously considers herself to be a “catch” because she used to be pretty. I’ll even stipulate that she probably looks good for her age, but as far as what she brings to the table in the marriage market, as a high value man I would consider her to be below the threshold of marriageability.

InevitableOwl1 · 2024-07-17T12:36:02+00:00

She is getting a taste of what life is like as a man. She’s been hit with all the classics:

“I don’t know how you are single” (by people who have no intention of dating you)
You’ve got all these positive qualities … but….
“I only see you as a friend” (pretty much always with absolutely zero intention of being friends or even staying touch. This just means that they hope to not be met with a glare or angry reaction should they ever bump into you)

Also … why are the women who post like this always “conventionally attractive”. I really struggle to believe it. If you’ve been told by friends, family or people who just want sex from you then you can’t place weight on it. My mum says I’m handsome. Doesn’t make it true.

I assume it’s apps that give her this idea. They seem to add at least two points to a woman’s score in their own head - just anecdotally from the women who occasionally match and message me. But also from the often discussed point of men on these apps sleeping down and the women then getting “stuck on their highest setting”

I guess too many women have swallowed the idea that men only care about looks. Which is odd because they also simultaneously think men care about how strong, successful and independent they are

InevitableOwl1 · 2024-07-17T12:38:02+00:00

I think I saw this original post organically on my other Reddit profile. Seems to have blown up given the amount of replies she put in. You can tell she didn’t like some of the replies based on the comments. You can almost work out what they said without seeing them. Most likely being “the guys you want have better and/or multiple options so don’t need to pick you for long term. Especially if you sleep with them early and without much effort required from them”

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