This is just me ranting: I wish I could attach a picture of 2 placards/wallhangings that have words in English and Japanese on them- the words are Love on one and Happiness on the other. During our 20+ yrs of marriage, I thought my stbx and I were those 2 words that are currently hanging on the bedroom wall of our house, unbeknownst to me she never said that she fell out of those 2 things. Never was discussed, never was brought up during conversation. I'm just ranting here cause I need to rant, I'm currently going thru the process of divorce. She's moved out in mid May 24, I've secured myself a one bedroom apartment in another city but am currently moving things into the apartment on what I think I'll need. I can honestly tell you that she's lucky that she's getting any more of the things she left in the house after she left, took her 6 hours to pack (I found this out by the time on our alarm system for the house) what she could fit I guess into 2 cars- her's and her sister's, cause I did feel angry when I found the note saying that she was leaving to find out what makes "us" happy. I really wanted to thrash her stuff and burn it, but I think the local fire dept wouldn't have liked how tall the flames could've gotten. I think I'll take the 2 wallhangings with me to the new place to remind me that I can find happiness by myself and maybe love down the road in about 5 yrs but I've got to work on myself first.