So I’ve gotten to the point where I can approach comfortably and have a good conversation with girls that lead to something more. I am now confident dating and keeping plates, setting up dates, having productive conversations, escalating, etc. I overall have a good sense of game when it’s just her and I.

But what I see myself struggling with a lot, is flirting and having a solid frame when there’s other people around.

In a cold approach at a store for example I could do a well enough job for the close if it’s myself and her and maybe a friend of hers, but there have been countless times where I’ve been with my homies or family and talking to girls around them has never failed to fill me with nerves.

I remember there was one time in Target with a friend. I saw this girl I was on the way to approach when my homie said “this is all you bro” and immediately as I learned he was going to be watching I got hit with a wave of nerves. I still did the approach but I was too nervous during the interaction so I just left her a compliment and went on with the day.

There was another time where this waitress at Applebee’s was bad and if I was alone I’d strike conversation with her, but I was at dinner my mom so the nerves crept up.

I’m of the idea that it’s a mindset thing or maybe even more psychological as my nerves come on only when it’s the people closest to me watching. It feels almost like I don’t want to disappoint them or let them know I enjoy women (old nice guy tendencies creeping in). On a similar note, I parted ways with an old group of friends because, among other issues, we didn’t see eye to eye on things when it came to women and game and it began to piss me off how much we argued over it all, so I definitely hold some shame and insecurity in that area.

Anyways, I’m most comfortable when it’s me and her, and strangers out in public don’t make me nervous but oohwee, I definitely do not enjoy close friends and family watching me interact with women I like. Any similar anecdotes and/or advice?