How many of you have dealt with a pretty good 1st date before things slowly started to fizzle out until you both stopped talking to each other?

So I went on a date 3 days ago & it went fairly well. Personally, I feel like I played my cards right because I’ve been on many dates before & have learned from past mistakes.

I escalated kino within a few minutes & she responded well to it. There was a lot of eye contact, good banter back & forth, I teased her quite a bit & I never felt that I acted awkward or needy. I controlled my tone & made sure to stay in control the whole time, also not revealing too much about myself.

At one point during the date she asked me, “How many girls have you brought around here” but I played it off pretty cool. She even told me how I’m quite mysterious, I’m assuming from the answers that I’d give her. I never wanted to tell her too much about myself but just enough to keep her still wondering about me.

I let her talk at least 70% of the time & she also asked me some interesting questions too. It was never one-sided. She also told me how she really liked some of the questions that I was asking her.

I kept it fun, light-hearted, I had her opening up a bit & I showed some vulnerability from my end too. I had her laughing a few times, smiling hard & really looking deep into my eyes when we were talking to each other.

At one point she even told me how I’m super sexy & have a really nice smile. It continued escalating from there where I kept played with her hair, rubbing her thighs & then we made out a little bit. I also kept things sexual by teasing what I’d do to her & she told me what she’s into.

She started telling about how she had a phase in the past about doing it secretly in public spots. Again, we continued to flirt in a sexual way but knew that we couldn’t do anything in that spot.

She even said that I give her the impression that I’m into choking & that I seem quite dominant. I told her that if she plays her cards right then maybe she’ll find out sometime, but I also hinted at some things that I’d do with her if we were somewhere else.

Anyways, we both knew that it wasn’t meant to be a super long date so we walked back towards the spot where we met, hugged, made out a little & I said that it was nice seeing her. What I find a little bit strange was when she made a comment about how “she’s okay, will get home safely & that I don’t need to drop her off anywhere”.

After that date, neither of us texted each other that evening. I messaged her the next day, teasing her a little bit & she responded well to it, also hinting about us potentially seeing each other again.

That day I was pretty easy so I barely had a chance to message her & when I did, it also took her a few hours to reply back. Not that I care about streaks but we had a snapchat streak going for a couple of days that she ended that night. I never brought it up to her because I’m not bothered by those things but I figured I’d add it in this story.

Another day later, she messaged me saying that she saw me walking into the gym as she was leaving. I told her, “I guess the universe loves a good timing” & she responded with “I guess it does” with a heart after. I hearted that message & that was it.

She hasn’t responded with a follow up message in over a day & neither have I. I didn’t want to come off as needy & I don’t believe I have at all but the vibe isn’t 100% the same as it was leading up to the date. We were never texting a lot, leading up to the date, but I did feel like she was putting in a little bit more effort into messaging me.

Are we both acting a little bit too cold or am I reading it right that we’re both just fading the connection away? Is she testing my patience here or am I just overthinking it?

How often have you guys dealt with a great 1st date that ended with you both slowly distancing yourself away?