Paternity Testing At Birth, Before CS or Never?

VariousScallion8597 · 2024-11-05T22:41:06+00:00

It should be done at birth it never will be and we all know why.

So how should one approach this:

If youre married look up "presumed paternity" on chatgpt and put in your state. Find out how much time you have to contest paternity. Is it 6 months? A year? Two? That's your window.
If you're not married...why are you having a baby? But you need to know what happens when you sign the birth certificate and find out the kid isn't yours. In some places once you sign nothing can free you. Find out for your area.
Do not tell the mom you are testing. Yes. You have to take it to your grave. If you can't live with that forget about this. Women are highly emotional and she will not be able to let it go. Just swab the kid. Get the results sent to a fake email address that you only use once for this purpose. Don't tell anyone unless the results are negative.

WhereProgressIsMade · 2024-11-05T21:52:22+00:00

If it were up to me, I would just make it a standard part of the prenatal visits. I forget when exactly, but it's something around 6 to 8 weeks you can get a paternity test using a cheek swab from the guy and a blood sample from the mother. There's enough fetal cells floating around in the mother's blood to pick them up.

It's in the child's interest to know who their biological parents are for sure for medical history risks. Just make it automatic to avoid the whole, "you don't trust me" thing guys get if they want one.

stjimmycat · 2024-11-06T03:09:36+00:00

Until the law requires mandatory testing at birth, just do the test on your own. She doesn’t need to know unless it’s not your child.

Wylanderuk · 2024-11-06T02:47:56+00:00

Should be a standard test at birth or sooner if it can be done prenatal.

my_socks_are_shoes13 · 2024-11-13T20:57:45+00:00

Well I can say for Texas, my ex's husband had to sign paperwork acknowledging my kid wasn't his. We didn't have a paternity test or anything cuz it was kind of painfully obvious the kid was mine 😅

But they should do paternity testing at birth or whenever results are clear, unfortunately in a lot of states, even if the husband signs off stating that the kid is yours, the state still gives the husband full legal responsibility for the child, like Louisiana is one I know operates that way.

Either way I'm glad Texas at least had SOME avenue to allow me parental rights, even if it was totally dependent on her husband's approval.

Capable-Mushroom99 · 2024-11-06T17:14:14+00:00

Think about it this way; if a man cheats on his wife and gets someone else pregnant then it is the mothers choice to expose him, force him to pay, or not. The legal system doesn’t force her to reveal the father even if she claims support from the state. If you want a consistent policy testing all babies then it will not be just the cheating women that get exposed, but also the cheating men. It will not be just that deceived men have the option to avoid child support, but also that men who impregnate women they are not married to will be forced to pay child support (which only happens in the minority of cases currently).

Practically, the system is never going to change to one biased in favor of men. Also the state is never going to accept a system in which they are paying to support a child, they know the father, but don’t compel him to contribute to support. So realistically a requirement to test at birth means the father of every child is revealed and compelled to pay child support. This seems fair, but even if we accept that every deceived husband would benefit from this (I don’t think this is really true), there will be many more “hidden” fathers that are going to be very unhappy.

Title	Paternity Testing At Birth, Before CS or Never?
Author	Late-Hat-9144
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	November 4, 2024 10:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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